I’ve heard that men aren’t wired to be with just one woman; that it requires internal struggle/effort to remain committed to one woman…so they’re allowed 4 wives a d even more in the next world. So, now I just think the whole concept of true love is an illusion. If it’s not in the nature of men…then I think maybe women shouldn’t bother becoming deeply emotionally attached to any guy…not even her husband. Give your best to your relationships but somehow manage a detachment to protect yourself. But that’s easier said than done…attachments form as smoothly as blood flows thru one’s body.
I do believe if the opportunity presents itself, 95% will cheat. That’s how sure I am. Don’t let that drive you crazy. It’s much easier for women to cheat than men and get away with it! Just saying if you ever want to play the field.
One thing I’ve often wondered is that the partner who sees someone that is attractive but truly has no desire to start an affair…is their love more sincere…than the partner who controls their urges but at the same time thinks “Aaaw man, if only it wasn’t a gunnah…if only I didn’t have kids…If only I wouldn’t have to go through the hassle of a divorce…if there wasn’t so much at stake…I’d have acted on it”…?? It’s a disturbing thought to imagine your spouse to ever be secretly entertaining about you. Imagine the chaos that would ensue if God hadn’t veiled our innermost thoughts from others…suspicion alone is maddening enough.
Wife is not the only woman. The ‘other woman’ is also a woman, and more often than not, she knows that the man she is having an affair with is already married. You pick any real life famous case of husband cheating on his wife, and almost always the other woman knew that he is married. Whether you committed the crime or was an accomplice, you are equally responsible.
the title of this thread is extremely biased. If all men cheat then by definition, all women help them to cheat.
Monki, maybe in ye olde days but now it’s easy so I really don’t think Pakistani culture is any different. The only different is that the ‘opportunity’ is unlikely going to present itself to a balding Pakistani uncle with a tiddy.
I’m with McPendo on this one, if the circumstances are right and the opportunity is there, most men will try it. Naive to think otherwise. Just because you have wonderful relationship and devoted spouse right now, doesn’t mean that will be the same 10 years down the line.
Most American Presidents have cheated: Kennedy for sure the CIA agents would escort his girl friends for the rendezvu/rundeevu ;), after that President Johnson had special girl friend in the Senate Lunchroom as a waitress! Then most recent we have Billy Clinton’s affair **without any sex with Monica **right in the Oral Office as the Rhodes scholar claimed
If by opportunity you mean Kate Upton on a secluded island, shirtless and telling a man to “aj lut le jo lutna ae” then probably more than 95%, but to be fair anyone who is not actively looking for an opportunity is very very unlikely to cheat.
I only know of 2 men in my circle who have cheated. The rest have not even when there was ample opportunity for someone who was looking for an opportunity to cheat.
I think most men nowadays have sex with someone other than their wives at some point in their lives. Desire for sexual variety is very natural (and quite undermined by mainstream society) even if youre married to the most attractive person you’ve ever met. You can be a devoted husband and a father but still need to get it out of your system every now and then.
Sister, we men are wired that way, that’s why Allah (swt) promised us hoor in jannat-ul-firdous, while women get the best reward possible, to be with her husband (and his promised hoor al’aeen) for all eternity.
