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Read her post again 
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oops I forgot
but still if she believes in talaq then isn’t it wrong..?
personally I think a divorce is when you file papers or leave the house permanently..
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oops I forgot but still if she believes in talaq then isn't it wrong..?
personally I think a divorce is when you file papers or leave the house permanently..
DA was talking about a relative of hers. So we don't know if they still live together or not.
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DA was talking about a relative of hers. So we don't know if they still live together or not.
Tht was very complicated thing because the lady was also prego at tht time n ulma said she can't live with tht person but talaq will happen as soon as baby delivered so she never returned to in laws.
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Salaam everyone,
Few years ago my friends husband had an argument and her husband ended up saying talaaq to her three times. My friend ignored it and didn't tell anyone and they both lived as normal couple, and she was thinking about the children. My friend now wants to do Hajj this year but she feels she is living in a sin because now she has been reading about it a lot, she thinks she is divorced. She wants advice on if she should leave her husband and then she can do Hajj, she is very confused and needs advice, please give your opinion on this thank you.
three times, differently or at the same day, if performed, then divorce has taken place. Saying he was angry are one of the stupid and lame excuses.. Divorce is never given happily!! Yea I feel sorry for your friend but she has been divorced. May Allah forgive her, amen.
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Tht was very complicated thing because the lady was also prego at tht time n ulma said she can't live with tht person but talaq will happen as soon as baby delivered so she never returned to in laws.
Are they gonna do the nikkah again? Or is this it?
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Are they gonna do the nikkah again? Or is this it?
No no, this incident is very old almost 8 to 9 Yeats back,tht baby is a big boy now, she had a miserable experience wth tht pshyco person she never married again n is still single mother but the guy did second marriage
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Just a note that talaq almost always given in anger. Pyaar main talaq kon deta hai? So thinking that talaq given in anger will not be counted as talaaq is not proper.
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What I find really funny is that most people here who claim to be muslims cannot even answer such a simple question regarding divorce and the majority is asking for her to refer to an aalim. It means you people don't even know your religion enough. My last point is how can you profess to follow your religion when you don't even have basic knowledge? Mental midgets....
If scholars themselves don't agree 100% obviously the answers are going to reflect that..
And regarding the comment about us 'claiming' to be Muslims.. You're hardly in a place to be lecturing and insulting others when you come up with this..
Obviously you have no sense of pride in you....otherwise you would marry your own kind....
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Just a note that talaq almost always given in anger. Pyaar main talaq kon deta hai? So thinking that talaq given in anger will not be counted as talaaq is not proper.
get this.....there was a guy that did this......said it thrice in the heat of the moment.
later appealed to the local imam that it should not be considered firm and final because he was angry and since anger is haram so he was not in a state of being a momin therefore whatever came from his mouth at that time was not to be considered valid.
:D
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get this.....there was a guy that did this......said it thrice in the heat of the moment. later appealed to the local imam that it should not be considered firm and final because he was angry and since anger is haram so he was not in a state of being a momin therefore whatever came from his mouth at that time was not to be considered valid.
:D
Guy must be a lawyer :D
What did Imam say?
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Guy must be a lawyer :D
What did Imam say?
Imam told him that his excuse was lame. I think the fact that the guy came back to this matter a month after it happened is what made the imam make such a ruling.
I also think the imam had access to so much more of the history of the couple (there was physical abuse of wife and kids involved) that helped him to make it final.
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What I find really funny is that most people here who claim to be muslims cannot even answer such a simple question regarding divorce and the majority is asking for her to refer to an aalim. It means you people don't even know your religion enough. My last point is how can you profess to follow your religion when you don't even have basic knowledge? deleted
thankfully, divorce is not something that people encounter everyday in their life, so just because they dont know the rulings about divorce does not make them any less of a msulim. Being sarcastic, insulting people and having holier than thou attitude in fact makes someone's eeman more questionable than having knowledge about divorce rulings.
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Btw the phrase 'in anger' here can also mean irrational anger or not thinking straight rather than 'just' being angry because of course most men giving talaq won't exactly be happy doing it (tho it can also happen amicably)..
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Just a note that talaq almost always given in anger. Pyaar main talaq kon deta hai? So thinking that talaq given in anger will not be counted as talaaq is not proper.
True, but there's a difference between being in so much anger that you can't think rationally, and being calm but still sticking to your decision (of divorce). so no, it's not done happily or with love, but it can be done without anger....I think.
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True, but there's a difference between being in so much anger that you can't think rationally, and being calm but still sticking to your decision (of divorce). so no, it's not done happily or with love, but it can be done without anger....I think.
true it can be, that is why i said 'almost always' (by which I mean majority of the times). There is always some deep seated anger, even in calm situations.
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There are 3 or so ruling about talaq and they differ greatly. They can't all be right though...can they? One consider three time talaq in one setting as final thing and living together means you are committing zina. While the other do not see it as such...
Why is there so much confusion about such an important subject?
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I remember once a guppan said that even a husband say (once) I'm giving you talaq,then talaq is done .
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The one who is uttering Talaq in anger knows the value of these words, otherwise that person also use other insulting/b-words. Psyche of that person is suggest that He really dont want to keep current relation therefore taking such step. Why does not he damage himself physically if he is not in that state of mind.
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Salaam everyone,
Few years ago my friends husband had an argument and her husband ended up saying talaaq to her three times. My friend ignored it and didn't tell anyone and they both lived as normal couple, and she was thinking about the children. My friend now wants to do Hajj this year but she feels she is living in a sin because now she has been reading about it a lot, she thinks she is divorced. She wants advice on if she should leave her husband and then she can do Hajj, she is very confused and needs advice, please give your opinion on this thank you.
She should ask an Alim but from what i now, there is nothing wrong with their marriage and she has not committed any sin by living with him.
The 3 utterances at one time constitute 1 talaq and they can do ruju without the need of doing Nikah again.