Dating/Marrying a thot - is it worth it?

[fitoor]

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Doing some deep soul searching, do you as a desi man of Pakistani origin respect a woman who has been with so many men?

She took a pass at all the previous guys because she saw qualities in them that weren’t suitable for a life partner for her.

[Dubaiwali]

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Illuminate I love your replies in this thread. Lol.

[SaeedinPakistan]

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@fitoor

Doing some deep soul searching, do you as a desi man of Pakistani origin respect a woman who has been with so many men?

She took a pass at all the previous guys because she saw qualities in them that weren’t suitable for a life partner for her.

Or she spent time with them, had her fun, then got bored. Some people just aren’t meant to be monogamous. She might get bored of the OP as well, therefore, you ought to give it time and not sign any papers until you’re sure.

[fitoor]

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@SaeedinPakistan

Or she spent time with them, had her fun, then got bored. Some people just aren’t meant to be monogamous. She might get bored of the OP as well, therefore, you ought to give it time and not sign any papers until you’re sure.

What shapes how a guy sees a woman though?

[Bobby1]

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@fitoor

What shapes how a guy sees a woman though?

One of the best questions I have seen on this forum. It needs a blog or thread of its own please. My guess is beliefs, culture, what you see growing up.

[SaeedinPakistan]

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@fitoor

What shapes how a guy sees a woman though?

The woman’s actions and words I’d say. Do they align with my values and goals in life? Is she worth me settling down? She is in control of how I view her.

[fitoor]

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@SaeedinPakistan

The woman’s actions and words I’d say. Do they align with my values and goals in life? Is she worth me settling down? She is in control of how I view her.

There are so many Pakistani women out there that would have similar values and goals as you i’m sure. That really doesn’t narrow it down.
What qualities within her would make a guy think she’s worth him giving up his carefree single life to settle down and be faithful to only her? I wouldn’t mind if all the men on here answered this one so I can take the most common response. And they say women are a mystery yeah right.

To me if a Pakistani guy sees a woman as a hoe, he would most likely only have fun with her but then definitely not see her as marriage material. Come on be honest. Obviously the quality of dating a lot of guys is a ginormous negative. Hoe to me is another word for easy or whore.

[Marmalade]

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@SaeedinPakistan

The woman’s actions and words I’d say. Do they align with my values and goals in life? Is she worth me settling down? **She is in control of how I view her. **

Bolded part doesn’t make sense to me. Noone can have complete control over what others think of them. You can’t control how others treat you either–you can only control who you allow into your life.

What do you mean by words and actions?

I’ve seen some foul men who view women as nothing but objects. I can’t see them ever actually settling down with anyone. Doesn’t mean the women they’ve come weren’t worth it.

I’ve seen some girls put through the wringer and get discarded. Doesn’t mean they had no worth as people. Sure they put their trust in the wrong person, but I don’t see how this doesn’t reflect the poor character of the man involved.

[third_string]

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@SaeedinPakistan

Let her know you ain’t looking to get married right now. She might be getting the marriage vibe from you since you’re all gung ho about no contact. Just be clear about what you’re looking for. If she sticks around you’ll have plenty of time to see if she’s your type or not.

i ain’t gung ho about no contact, first base is the farthest i go.

[third_string]

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@fitoor

You’re calling her a hoe which is another word for thot and you’re asking if you should go ahead with a relationship with her? You don’t even respect her because that’s the first word that comes to your mind when you think of her. A hoe.

Wow I bet she can’t wait to be in a relationship with a guy that doesn’t even respect her deep down. Would you mom approve of her? That’s you’re basis for it because if it does end up becoming something more as in you two have feelings for each other, then you mother’s approval would matter a lot to you. No?

Yo in hindsight, that was a poor choice of words from me and doesn’t reflect how i actually think of her and i do respect her, and yeah my mama would approve of her but then again my parents are pretty chill so they’d approve of any girl i choose. And no i don’t think she’s a hoe, i’m just curious if she’s serious about me and that i’m not just gonna be one of many other guys she’s dated. I don’t wanna be a number.

[third_string]

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@fitoor

Doing some deep soul searching, do you as a desi man of Pakistani origin respect a woman who has been with so many men?

She took a pass at all the previous guys because she saw qualities in them that weren’t suitable for a life partner for her.

I respect her and click with her more than with any other girl. To me a girl’s respect has nothing to do with how many guys she’s dated or if she’s slept with another guy or not. That doesn’t matter to me, however I am curious about whether a girl who has dated so many men in such a short period would be serious about me, (i’m not gonna give more details for privacy).

[SaeedinPakistan]

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@Marmalade

Bolded part doesn’t make sense to me. Noone can have complete control over what others think of them. You can’t control how others treat you either–you can only control who you allow into your life.

What do you mean by words and actions?

I’ve seen some foul men who view women as nothing but objects. I can’t see them ever actually settling down with anyone. Doesn’t mean the women they’ve come weren’t worth it.

I’ve seen some girls put through the wringer and get discarded. Doesn’t mean they had no worth as people. Sure they put their trust in the wrong person, but I don’t see how this doesn’t reflect the poor character of the man involved.

Sure, she can’t have complete control over how she is perceived but she does have some control. For example, someone who still parties and smokes ganja isn’t for me. And I’m sure I’d be a terrible partner for her because I’d be a buzz kill all the time. These things aren’t necessarily wrong but they aren’t for me.

Words, how you talk about other people, how you resolve conflicts, how you see the world. Are someone who’d stick around if our relationship gets a little bumpy or are you someone who’ll bail the first sign of trouble. Action, would be how you treat others and yourself.

Sure there are men like that, not much we can do about that though. Can we? I guess my answer was more about men who actually like women(as people not mere objects), like their company and want a long term relationship with one.

[Illuminate]

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well third string if you’ve made your mind then I think the only advice would be that you need to trust yourself.
If you’re serious about yourself and her then I am sure she will be as well. If you’re dedicated and honest then she will be as well and will quickly learn that you’re not like the other guys.People are attracted to confident people who know what they want.

And somewhere down the line you give it your all and its not reciprocated then you’ll be okay because you wouldn’t want to be with someone that doesn’t give back what you’re putting out anyways.

So good luck and I hope you don’t come back with a sad story.

[third_string]

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@Illuminate

well third string if you’ve made your mind then I think the only advice would be that you need to trust yourself.
If you’re serious about yourself and her then I am sure she will be as well. If you’re dedicated and honest then she will be as well and will quickly learn that you’re not like the other guys.People are attracted to confident people who know what they want.

And somewhere down the line you give it your all and its not reciprocated then you’ll be okay because you wouldn’t want to be with someone that doesn’t give back what you’re putting out anyways.

So good luck and I hope you don’t come back with a sad story.

No worries. If it doesn’t work out, I bounce back real fast. I’m always lookin for the rebound.

[SaeedinPakistan]

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@third_string

I respect her and click with her more than with any other girl. To me a girl’s respect has nothing to do with how many guys she’s dated or if she’s slept with another guy or not. That doesn’t matter to me, however I am curious about whether a girl who has dated so many men in such a short period would be serious about me, (i’m not gonna give more details for privacy).

Someone who’s had more exposure is better equipped to know what they like and don’t like. Are you in a hurry or something. Can’t you just sit back and let things unfold? She can’t possible carry the facade for too long, if it is a facade. She doesn’t seem like the conservative type so she shouldn’t have any issues with dating for some time before coming to any sort of decision. Is that how are done here out in the West? People don’t just meet and jump on the marriage wagon no matter how right it feels.

[Illuminate]

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@third_string

No worries. If it doesn’t work out, I bounce back real fast. I’m always lookin for the rebound.

why do I have a feeling this isn’t going to end well..whyyyyyyyyyy

[third_string]

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@SaeedinPakistan

Someone who’s had more exposure is better equipped to know what they like and don’t like. Are you in a hurry or something. Can’t you just sit back and let things unfold? She can’t possible carry the facade for too long, if it is a facade. She doesn’t seem like the conservative type so she shouldn’t have any issues with dating for some time before coming to any sort of decision. Is that how are done here out in the West? People don’t just meet and jump on the marriage wagon no matter how right it feels.

Lol when did i mention marriage, i’m not the one talking about it and nor do i want to get married for like another 5 to 10 years.

[third_string]

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@Illuminate

why do I have a feeling this isn’t going to end well..whyyyyyyyyyy

i swear it’s the nazar

[Illuminate]

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@third_string

i swear it’s the nazar

LOOOOOL, YEA..SURE…that’s exactly what it is.

[SaeedinPakistan]

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@third_string

Lol when did i mention marriage, i’m not the one talking about it and nor do i want to get married for like another 5 to 10 years.

Lol bro. Don’t sweat it then. You got nothing to worry about. Just don’t get her pregnant

I know I know, you’re all about that first base but **** happens sometimes, just be safe.