Dancing at a Wedding

[Mehnaz]

Re: Dancing at a Wedding

@ashtray

Dancing is certainly a new addition to weddings. This was only limited to dukan daar type and jahil tabqa and was a taboo for shurafa. It is still a taboo in our family and is frowned upon. I dont know of any close female relative that knows how to or has danced in front of others, particularly males, at a wedding or mehndi. Oh yes the girls do it on their own, but not in a mehfil in front of others.

I personally dont like the idea of someone I know shaking her good in a sensual way in front of other males and yes I am old fashioned. But then again I have not attended any family wedding in the last 4/5 years so I dont know if this is still true.

It’s not new. It’s been happening for many, many, many years, not just in the “jahil tabqa” or “dukan daar” type of families.

Most of the mendhis I have been to have been women only. My sister’s mendhi will be women and family only. We are practicing dances and quite eager to shake our stuff, and why shouldn’t we be? It’s a time to celebrate!

I don’t know what is common in Pakistan since I have never attended a wedding there although I have seen videos of people dancing and having fun in mehfils.

Over here, it really depends on the family. Majority of weddings I have been to had bhangra dancing at the reception. Believe me, there is nothing sensual about that since most people look like monkies when they bhangra, including myself.

I have been to two weddings where they had large mendhis in banquet halls, mixed gatherings and solo/group performances done by girls in the wedding party. At the actual wedding, they didn’t think it was appropriate to have dancing … even though the night before they danced in front of all the guests anyway. A bit silly, but whatever makes people happy I guess.

Also, if a person knows how to dance, it doesn’t make them any less shareef than anybody else. Some people are blessed with natural rhythm, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

I have a feeling, that you just don’t know how to dance which is why you are being snooty.