The most important question is where you'd go from the discovery? Could you be just 'friends' or would your relationship come to a halt because of the shift in dynamics?
My friend has a friend who liked a guy who she'd met a number of times and then he came out with the fact that he was besotted with her- on their 5th meeting! She was over the moon but waited a couple of days to tell him, just so that both had time to deal with what had happened. The guy said he wanted to concentrate on their friendship as it was the most sensible thing to do. The girl was disappointed because she wanted to take it further and see if they were compatible (for marriage, etc). Anyway, to cut a VERY long story short, their realtionship HAS changed- the guy's become slightly aloof and the girl's found herself thinking more and more about him and therefore becoming a nervous, giggling wreck around him!
I'd offer my own 2 pence worth but, I'll refrain- the non-relationship guru that I am!
very dilchasp story. wow. not something you think would happen. shows how gullible girls can be.
it happened to me. i knew this guy throughout college and everyone but me clicked on that he fancied me. he would follow me everywhere but i just didnt click on. i even teased him about some girls i knew that fancied him and he would go quite until i found out he did and cudnt face him. he was a very sweet guy and we went to same uni aswell but i got with my now husband and he is now married and all has been cleared.
how would you react if you found out that certain person likes you or has a crush on you and that certain person is really close to you.. like a good friend or a best friend... or if that certain person is such a person that you would least expect this kind of discovery from!
I won't go into details but I was freaked out for sure
I would try to talk it over, and than once that is done ignore the whole situation. (I'm assuming in this situation the person who is being crushed on does not return the same feelings)
It happened to me....I got really shocked, angry and felt betrayed...I started to rethink every interaction and think maybe maine koi ghalti ki ho...or maybe I misled him some way. He apologized a lot to me and said he couldn't help it...and he just wanted to be honest...but I was soo upset. I felt like I lost a good friend and it would be forever awkward. And the worst thing was another girl who used to hang out with us found out and she started to accuse me of using her to cover our chakkar up. And that wasn't it at all...I promised her i didn't know but she wouldn't budge. I cried and cried cuz we were such a good group and then it got ruined.
Later on.....he left....and I missed him....then I was confused...thinkin 'what the hell is wrong with me? i hate him, right?'....but i knew it was pointless to say anything cuz i was only 20 and i thought it's either friendship or marriage. nothing in between. He came back to our city and he would just say 'salam' and formal sort of stuff...idk...i started to have tars on him and somehow i guess he seemed tolerable and not so gross anymore....one day he said he'll walk me to my car and guess who I saw? That girl who had accused me of using her as a coverup! Gosh...I wanted to die...she probably thought 'aha...dekho maine sahi kaha tha na...k inka chakkar chal raha tha?!' even though it wasn't!! she then wrote me a snide message saying that she had seen me very clearly..gosh abhi likh k bhi itni sharam aarahi hai...
jalebi poor dear. why are you still feeling guilty. that girl has is way too shaaki and it is her problem that she has negative thinking not yours. you shouldn't care about such people. if that was me and she messaged me like that i would tell her to shove it!