Re: Coping with Infertility
I think no tension at all.
Like when my sister calls me after sometimes she says aa gaay saray bundar chhup kar phone karo phir bhi aa jatay hain chain say 10 minute baat bhi naheen karnay detay. They always try to get her attention. Start fighting, crying and do everything to disturb her.
Wheneve she wants to call me she hide from her kids go upstairs and then after 10 minute they find her. lol
i don't think growing plants and caring for pets and thigns will ever replace having one's own child. i know are trying to be helpful and you may not have intended to be insensitive, but i hope you know that this is a very hurtful and dismissive thing to say. please be careful.
I find similar happiness in growing plants and having children. And I surely don't think that its a hurtful thing to say but if you feel hurt then I apologise, I'll be extra careful next time on this forum.
Re: Coping with Infertility
yeah reading this forum has reminded me of the time when i was desparate to have a family, now all of the above is so tue.
things i miss is
undesturbed sleep,
going to the movies,
eating a meal from start to finish in one go
unplanned outings evrything has to be planned now to have time to get eveything ready.
showers yes i know wierd but i used to shower everyday now its lucky if i have one everyother day.
watching whatever i want whenever i want to. cbeebees has taken over my tv
going shopping and just browsing. now its go in buy what i need and go home.
but i still would change it for the world.
i have seen both sides of life as i wasnt blessed with children until 7 years into my marraige, both sides have their good points and bad points, i would say make the most of what you have do enjoy it to the max as you never know what is round the corner. i totally gave up of ever having kids before i found out i was pregnant. now i do wish i had made the most of my time before having the kids, like studying further and traveling
Re: Coping with Infertility
All of us with or withour children are victims, this is what I got from this thread.
So I was at a dinner party few days back, there were other families, kids running around.. moms not being able to eat or chit chat; and for the first time I thought that amidst all the misery of feeling the only childless couple in our social circle I was missing out the fun part of it. Then on, I enjoyed my food to the fullest and promised myself I'll do that more often.
Although the pleasures and joys of having kids are just countless, I am making a mental list of things that one misses out after having kids, so I can maybe enjoy them..not in a negative sense though, it's just that we don't realize many pleasures in life until we are deprived of them.
So the blessed ones, are there any other activities you miss out after having a baby that maybe we-the childless can still enjoy?
You are childless? Sorry to know that. Just a suggestion, Why dont you adopt one from Pakistan (if u dont live in pak) ? Adopt a baby boy or gal, raise him/her, educate and then marry off to a good gal/boy. Allah will be pleased with you and you will have a good time too.
All of us with or withour children are victims, this is what I got from this thread.
OR
All of us are blessed in one way or another :-)
which is the reason why I opened this thread, to learn about the things we can be thankful for while we are in the agony of being deprived of something else.
OR
All of us are blessed in one way or another :-)
which is the reason why I opened this thread, to learn about the things we can be thankful for while we are in the agony of being deprived of something else.
Yep....that's the way to be a good muslim, by being positive and thankful. Thanks for reminding. :)
Re: Coping with Infertility
Sorry if I'm missed out in ur post, but why can't you have kids? Believe me, I have known a girl who was told by many docs she can't have kids unless of course she goes through intensive fertility programs, but now she is pregnant... never lose hope, and keep trying.. anything can possible!