Cooking for a large dinner plus potential rishta. help me with ideas. thanks

[pcormac2013]

Re: Cooking for a large dinner plus potential rishta. help me with ideas. thanks

@redvelvet

What acrobatics is the girl going to perform to impress you? What I mean is that why worry about how she and her family feels about you? Don’t you also have to determine if she meets your criteria and if you find her compatible? Cook because you enjoy it and not with the goal to win the girl over because cooking, too, is not a defining factor. Girl in question might love the meal you prepare from start to finish, but still not feel a connection with you for one reason or another and that connection/chemistry/attraction/whatever you wanna call it is a complex matter. Moreover, even if she and her folks do approve of you…YOU might find that you’re not into her. Basically put the cooking in a reasonable perspective…do it because you’re good at it and enjoy it…don’t do it to get the girl…and don’t base your self worth on the cooking and outcome of the event. If delicious meals were guarantees for winning rishtas…then so many families who go above and beyond in with the meal…would not be turned down. So, chill.

It’s more my parents teasing me about my cooking and challenging me. I find cooking relaxing and a hobby. I always did it when i was growing up. She is also a guest coming from overseas so i am not expecting her to do anything. I want to be a good host and if nothing else she remembers her time here as a good one. The criteria and compatibility thing will also come but first i’d like to be friends with her. It is not just her but a few others as well so the focus isn’t strictly on the rishta aspect of it. It would give good conversation to break the ice as well i think. Well maybe. You’re right main thing is enjoying the experience.