Controlling diet of your Child!

[queen_24]

Re: Controlling diet of your Child!

@S02

Queen, I’m uncomfortable with the way you are speaking about this child. Maybe I’m overly sensitive to the word “fat,” but I think it comes off as an insult, whether or not you are stating facts.

Whatever the issue, I don’t think it’s about the amount of food she is eating. There are probably other lifestyle issues that are affecting her emotionally, mentally, and physically. If you are concerned about the girl, just try to engage her in different kinds of activities whenever you are with her. I think inertia is a powerful force in our lives, and sometimes we just need help breaking out of a routine in order to really be happy/healthy/productive.

S02, I certainly don’t mean to sound rude or insulting towards anyone or discomfort anyone. I really don’t know with what can I replace the word “fat” without sounding it insulting. If you can suggest, please tell me and I will take care of it in future.

@Sara516

How is any of this your business? She’s not your daughter, and unless hte mother were to ask you for advice…it’s none of your business.

It looks like at least the mother is conscious of it, but again…it’s none of your business.

Oh yar please, this is not a life1 thread. I will not appreciate any kind of misjudgments towards my thread. You can avoid commenting in any thread that seems weird to you, the way I do!! Thanks.

@Mezhgan

Queen, have you considered that her issue may be medical? Do you know if her mum has ever discussed any of this with the girl’s paediatrician? It’s difficult to say for certain without more information but type 1 diabetes often causes the symptoms you’ve described.

Polyphagia (excessive hunger) is often a symptom of type 1 diabetes, especially in children. This is different to the more common type of diabetes (type 2 diabetes) often seen with older people. With this type of diabetes, the body doesn’t produce insulin, which our body needs, and without insulin to move sugar into your cells, your muscles and organs become depleted of energy. This causes intense hunger. It also produces fatigue, sluggishness and irritability, which sounds rather like what you’ve described.

@nfs92

Sorry but I disagree, we dont always have to immediately jump to severe medical diagnoses.. I’ve seen very similar behaviour in a child very close to me and a few others. The child close to me was raised with lotsss of love, which at times meant being unable to say no and later developed into unhealthy habits as youve described.

Also I’d like to mention people who are in habit of overeating, their brains reach a point at which it can no longer recognise and send out the hormone instructing the body to stop as the stomach is full. (this can be overcome if the individual loses weight and/or starts exercise)

If a child is at this age and stage as you mentioned, then one should not underestimate the power of words. Simply speak to them at their level, staying composed and keeping it simple for them is key. That does include involving a scare factor or two but also talking to them about the benefits of improving their health. They should know youre concerned not being judgemental or angry.. afterall with such an upbringing, its not their fault..

To answer you both, no this is the problem, the Mom has not discussed with me about it BUT I now feel her uncomfortable and embarrassed due to her girl’s behavior. She is a good and bit closer friend of mine. I myself, don’t want her to feel that way in front of me because I usually don’t like someone getting embarrassed in front of me. But because she hasn’t yet chosen to discuss it with me, I don’t feel right to discuss with her too may this can make her feel more uncomfortable. And yes, being a closer friend, I feel for the kid and I would literally don’t want her to ruin her health like this, I am not insensitive to think like “staying out of the businesses”.

Thanks Mzghan, you raised a valid point but I can not be sure of it until this issue is discussed with me & if that’s the case, then I feel really bad I hope this can be treated too.

nfs92, thanks to you too, you are right too, especially I agree with your last paragraph too much. Would you suggest how can one talk to such kids about improving their health without bringing it into their notice and not sounding judgmental?
The girl listens to me a lot, most of the times, she isn’t listening to her mother but me. She is quite friendly with me. Maybe I can teach her in some other way how she should quit certain habits without making her realize that I am trying to rule her but being her friend