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So why is watta satta bad? An arranged marriage is no different than a business deal nowadays. And watta satta is a deal too.
marriage is already a compromise and with watta satta arrangement the extent of compromise bound you consider your sister's future even when conveying something right to your wife (she doesn't like).
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So why is watta satta bad? An arranged marriage is no different than a business deal nowadays. And watta satta is a deal too.
Arrange marriages, get to know phase eliminates many doubts.... watta satta, as is condition.
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If one marriage fails due to x,y,z reasons the second marriage fails too in 90% cases.
Once married, its upto the individuals to not be manipulayed by others and if they don't have a backbone, then, well no marriage is good for them.
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Get to know phase eliminates many doubts.... watta satta, as is condition.
Wht doubts? If the guy has enough money and goodwill or if the girl is pretty enough with the right education or family background?
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marriage is already a compromise and with watta satta arrangement the extent of compromise bound you consider your sister's future even when conveying something right to your wife (she doesn't like).
Its just a little more risky.
If arranged marriage can be treated as a business deal and be accepted...then satta watta is similar..with a lil more risk and benefits too.
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No, I'm not in favor of Satta watta. I just wanted to point out how its similar to arranged marriages nowadays :)
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Its just a little more risky. If arranged marriage can be treated as a business deal and be accepted...then satta watta is similar..with a lil more risk and benefits too.
people do that considering benefits, but at the end of the day, I have seen many examples where misunderstanding between one couple lead to two divorces.
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Wht doubts? If the guy has enough money and goodwill or if the girl is pretty enough with the right education or family background?
You are right. Enough money, good job, good will, education, background are basic filter of marriage proposal. But, individual traits, habits, hobbies, lifestyle, thought process, anger management are also needed in review process...
Understanding and realization are key...
How is an arrange marriage a business deal?
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people do that considering benefits, but at the end of the day, I have seen many examples where misunderstanding between one couple lead to two divorces.
well as I said in post# 23 ... if they don't hv a backbone...they arent worth staying in a marriage.
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How is an arrange marriage a business deal?
How is it not?
Aren't the rishtas filtered on both sides?
Good job, money , education, background, looks, goodwill , ability to cook, location od residence and so on.
Different criteria for different people. Just like a business deal.
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If one marriage fails due to x,y,z reasons** the second marriage fails too in 90% cases**.
Disagree..
I didn’t know this was called a business deal 
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You are right. Enough money, good job, good will, education, background are basic filter of marriage proposal. But, individual traits, habits, hobbies, lifestyle, thought process, anger management are also needed in review process...
Understanding and realization are key...
1- in most arranged marriages they dont get to know each other well still.
2- satta watta arrangement isnt done with anyone on the street who has a son n a daughter. Other things are considered as well and if the family is moderate enough...they can let the 4 know each other...if they arent moderate...even if not a satta watta...they wont let the to be husband-wife know each other before marriage
Sanu kee kar lain disagree 
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Its a deal.. ek hath le ek de de 
Its not wrong in absolute terms, but complications do arise in most cases
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Its very similar.
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1- in most arranged marriages they dont get to know each other well still. 2- satta watta arrangement isnt done with anyone on the street who has a son n a daughter. Other things are considered as well and if the family is moderate enough...they can let the 4 know each other...if they arent moderate...even if not a satta watta...they wont let the to be husband-wife know each other before marriage
Filmi dialogue: jin rishton ki buniyad sharton pe rakhi jae, wo aksar panap nahin paate...
Wo to tab jb aap neechy sy upar chalang lgao to upar sy neechy ana parta hy
Kher me ny to ye suna hy shadi hy he jua chahy arrange ho ya love.I don’t know if it’s true or not.
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Wo to tab jb aap neechy sy upar chalang lgao to upar sy neechy ana parta hy Kher me ny to ye suna hy shadi hy he jua chahy arrange ho ya love.I don't know if it's true or not.
Yep....its a gamble