Confrontation and Closure

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Re: Confrontation and Closure

@Sehrysh

The specific person I’m thinking of is a relative of a relative and what a piece of work this lady is!

Let’s take for example a simple situation. She won’t come down and visit her ILs unless her husband buys her an expensive present - he has to bribe her, and she won’t invite his family to their home unless it’s “convenient” for her (she never invites them to stay over even though it’s a 4 hour drive although her siblings get an invite to stay over).

Yet, despite the fact that she practices exclusionary tactics, his family is expected to jump when she invites them because they don’t want to be seen as the “rude” or argumentative relatives. At what point should she be called out on her behaviour?

ASA,

Sister, I believe the responsibility lays in the hands of her husband and her parents. As someone previously mentioned, if her actions are not directly interfering with your life or your family’s, then you should just avoid it.

On the other hand, if you find that her actions are interfering with your’s and your family’s lives, then you should try speaking with her husband and if he is incapable of listening, I would recommend competely shutting them all out from your lives. If they create some kinda drama about that, then Allah (swt) will sort that out His way and you can relax knowing you did the right thing.

When in doubt, I always ask people. Imagine yourself in the shoes of the Prophet Muhammad (saw) and try to think what would someone as perfect as him do in your case?