Re: Close female friends
platonic yeah right
Re: Close female friends
i have a guy friend that i'm very close to- he lives in another country so we chat online whenever we're both on msn, and anytime he's in my country we hang out. if the hubs is around, we hang out with him; if he's not, i meet up with him on my own to chit chat and hang out. hubs has been hearing about him for years and finally met him at our wedding.
i think its a problem if you feel like you can't discuss things with your partner that you've talked about with your close friend, regardless of your friend's gender. there shouldn't be anything to hide there or keep from your partner - my friend and i have an independent relationship outside of my marriage, but i still always mention to my hubs if i chat with this friend and what we talked about and whats going on in his life, simply because
a) we're all friends now,
b) theres nothing to hide, and
c) i'm one of those people who likes to have all her friends be friends with each other so we can have really big parties :p
as for him having a similar friend of the opposite gender, he doesn't have one, so i honestly can't say how i'd feel. i think i'd be ok with it so long as it was as open and inclusive as my friendship is with my close friends. and of course, that i liked her and got along with her too haha
Re: Close female friends
CM you should be asking her if she is okay with you having female friends.
If the girl is raised in pakistan, she might have an objection to it as there is no
concept of friends of other gender there.
It would not have bothered me as long as I know to know he is speaking and why.
Re: Close female friends
I guess I didn't clarify this, I am single. Not married not planning on marriage for the next 2 or 3 years. This thread come up from a conversation I was having with friend and I just wanted to check how "acceptable" it would be taking in a wide spectrum of views.
Obviously not that acceptable. Oh well. One must compromise. On the issue on how I would react if my wife asked me to reduce contact or get rid of my female friends. It would depend on which friend and how much reduction. Getting rid of is unacceptable. Less frequent contact is completely doable. But it would depend on who the person is.
Of course there are lines you don't cross. Sharing private information regarding myself and whomever I marry is generally a dumbass thing to do. Also blowing off the potential Mrs. to see one of them is another dumbass thing to do.
Re: Close female friends
^ You already know what to do and how it's done. Why open a thread for something you clearly have a better concept of than most people who answered your question....?
Re: Close female friends
Dude if you are ok with her having ‘’‘close’‘’ guy friends than i guess she’ll be ok with u having ‘’‘close’‘’ girl friends too … and than your off springs will adopt the same thing from ur guys and u will be ok with that too … right ???
I would say find some ‘guy’ friends to ‘share’. Trust me its easier to share it with guys 
… cauz we just get it 
Re: Close female friends
Because:
A. I am not female
B. Opinions taken from a wider spectrum aid in provide unique views and new dimensions.
C. Women confuse the **** out of me.
A. Male dominant society. I totally agree with that
B. Be rational and go with gut feeling and future impacts of ur actions. Among right and wrong actions usually there is no 2nd opinion.
C. Cauz we let them do it. Men friends don’t do it. Try it
Okay, first of all...
I would never take the viewpoint of someone sitting in Pakistan writing about "how it's ok to have female friends." Most of these guys like the Pakistani-Flag Waving NaMaan come from a completely different mind. He's sitting there in Chowk, where finding a clean bathroom in his city is easier than having a casual female friend.
And you have a bunch of these "Renaissance" guys on this board, who play that whole open-minded card, I'm so evolved, I'm so progressive - but in reality are still the same guys that you see in your rearview mirror at a traffic light in downtown Chicago, digging his finger way up into his nose like a madman.
As for the women that comment...just like we have no idea why you have no problem making a scene in the CVS aisle about not remembering your Mom's shoe size, and embarrassing us to death in front of other guys, you will not understand how a guy thinks when he's with a girl. Any girl, esp if she is even slightly, remotely attractive, maybe attractive just from one angle that you just happen to notice.
The only person on this thread worth listening to was from "The Voice" who had the perfect comment and knows what he's talking about!
I completely understand your perspective NaMaan because I share it as well. But, it seems as if he is not really looking for the cultural/religious viewpoints. I think he simply wants to know if most women are accepting of that kind of friendship and will it affect his marriage/relationship in a negative way to have close female friends.
I just think it causes unnecessary problems…why go there?
Haha…what else is new? :halo:
**Now this paragraph agrees with The Voice…who said “platonic, yeah right”. Meaning, there is no such thing? **
U made my day
rather