Cleaning Their Room

[ehl-e-chamman]

Re: Cleaning Their Room

@TLK

^ Alteratively, we all can come to the realization that a child is a child and we should not strip them away from that joyful, carefree time where it does not matter if the bathroom sleepers are placed on the mat on the right side of the door, or quilt is spread such that the tag is on the left foot side.

Admit it or not, our childhood was not as involved compared to what our kids are experiencing. I used to be back from school at 1 pm, and would take a three hours nap after lunch. My daughters go to school at 7:30 and come back at 4:30 and then they have Quran lessons. After that, expecting them to have a spic and span clean room is unreasonable. And my kids don’t have any special schedule. Almost every kid of working parents has to run such routine.

Let your kids enjoy their childhood people. Don’t torture them through toilet trainings at ten month of age, or drinking from cup at 6 month, or kumon classes at age 2. Your kids are going to have just one childhood, and their memories should be of running behind butterflies, and not of scrubbing bathroom floors.

aww haha
cant say i know any parents who make their kids scrub any floors…
I dont disagree with your perspective but i do think there needs to be a balance. Nothing wrong is establishing good habits without being an OCD tiger mom/dad or flower power hippie!

in the story i related … that mom had already tried and failed to get the child to listen … what she described/did was her last resort. should she have approached it differently? how? any specific practical solutions for parents in similar situations (namely if a child just isnt listening/responding to repeated reminders)?
would it be better if she let him accumulate mess on the floor till the room is un-walkable or should she just continue to clean up after him? till what age? …

let me flip this around … not too long ago on this forum was a hot debate re: children acting like children (ie running around being noisy at social events/mosques) and who was responsible … and MOST people agreed or had the perspective that parents of children who ran a muck publicly were 100% responsible … that children are teachable and should be taught manners from an early age … that if a child was misbhaving publicly and outside a parents control then that parent was remiss in their duties and had better not attend the social gathering/mosque whathave you … SO can the parents of these children say … hey … my kid is busy all day long and this is the only time/opportunity they’ve gotten to run and laugh and play … cut them some slack! … plz dont say … the two scenarios are differnt .. one being public vs private/in home behavior … one drives the other i think and both involve a child ignoring parental guidance.

rest i agree with … kids these days are certainly overburden and over scheduled without much play time … BUT it still doesn’t exempt them from some basics … like a bath or putting away toys/books (thats not the same as scrubbing the bathroom floor … LOL) etc…