Re: choosing sister/cousin over you
My friend has never shown an interest in any of the guys which came forward. Their mother would refuse the rishta everytime this happened. It happened with every rishta, which makes it very odd. The older sister began to resent the sister so much she refused to get married and said to the mum, that get the younger one married, no one wants me. Even know on the engagement, she does not want the younger sister to dress up as much.
If this was to happen constantly over 4 years, it would bring down one's self confidence naturally.