yeah , my post seems to have struck several nerves it seems ! specially **Sara’s **who never beats it to say severe words !lady , get a grip of your attitude ! 
Fayax, by no means I am going against the prophet PBUH or his sahaba .. Infact from the incident that you quoted , it reiterates my point that its all about forgiveness, sacrifice and acceptance of the spouse that helps to avoid divorce . The prophet set an example for us that he gave a divorce to hazrat hafsa for what ever the reason but Allah mian asked him to look at the greater good of the lady and take her back … thats exactly what my point is , that a divorce should be avoided unless a huge reason comes up and its inevitable to divorce !
why do we have divorces so common these days ? what were our previous generations doing so different that it wasnt that common ,given that most had arranged marriages whilst today’s generations are much at liberty to choose partners of their choice ?
The fact is that we do not possess enough patience to deal with difficult situations , we let our ego to ride us, we do not compromise enough to save the relationship… for us small matters turn into big ones and the easy route out is to raise a cry and hue about it and seek divorce. RV you have quoted several cases na , now i will quote a few cases : I know someone who saught a divorce coz husband and inlaws asked her to let go of her job and concentrate on family , the fighting went on for 8 months and finally she asked for khula and went off !
Another someone I know he divorced his wife coz he thought they argued on everything all the time and that it wasnt possible for either to go back on their opinions about everything !
Yes , you are all absolutely right that there are some cases where individuals are innocent and suffer for nothing of their own doing … and I totally support them in upholding a respectable place in our society even after they are divorced … they are exceptions … and they are few …
however there are those who are just too shallow to realize a relationship… and unfortunately there are majority of thse individuals around and they should be taught a lesson for screwing up someones life …
A divorce in general is a concept that should be shunned so individuals will be pushed to try and find a solution within the framework of a relationship , but eventually if nothing works out then knowing that Allah’s most hated is a divorce the individual takes that path still asking Allah for his forgiveness for the deed.
I believe in immense compromise, zero ego, alot of acceptance , positive attitude and always ready to change one’s attitude , in a marriage … I have employed all these in my personal relationship with my partner and after a very very very difficult phase Alhamdullillah we both finally got on the same page .. its very hard to keep up relationships , very easy to get out of them and blame the other .