The fact is njgal, yes Allah has given the right in worst cases there is a way out , I totally respect that .... and I also respect the fact that it is Allah who has asked us to stay away from divorce as its the most hated act in the eyes of Allah.
Thats why I said that unless there is a genuine and a true reason that some one is divorced its acceptable , but if someone got divorced coz " hamare khiyal nai miltay etc " or " my inlaws were difficult people and I couldnt survive anymore ".. then apologies but they are just very materialistic individuals and should be denounced ...
A woman being hit by her husband has a solid case , she seeks divorce that is acceptable...
CB,
I understand where you're coming from and also the importance of respecting the institution of marriage.
BUT, I also believe that unless you are in a person's shoes, you will not know what they're going through.
You might listen to a person's story and think to yourself that they don't have a valid enough reason to split up. BUT.......to actually live that person's life is a whole other experience.
Some couples might have the meddlesome pesky in-laws that grate on your nerves but are not bad enough to warrant an end to the marriage. And there are some in-laws (everybody's situation is different) who continuously inflict psychological, emotional......even physical torture on a wife/bahu. In such situations, the Islamic recommendation is that the husband can provide his wife with a separate house (especially if efforts to resolve conflicts are not working). But if the husband himself is not supportive and the wife is in a one-sided relationship where she feels that she is frequently having to "endure and be the bigger person" and where all other strategies have failed.........how much more is she supposed to take? This abuse could affect her health, her self-esteem, her ability to function in day to day activities......including being a mom to her children.
And YES......I understand where you're coming from as well. There ARE people who will ask for divorce just over a single spat with the in-laws. And such individuals are careless and fickle about their commitments. BUT some people DO have valid reasons for a divorce.
You said that hitting is solid grounds for a divorce. But keep in mind that PERSISTENT emotional/psychological abuse can be more painful than physical wounds. Especially if efforts **have been made** to correct the problem and nothing is working. I'm not talking about people who play the divorce card for every little issue. I'm talking about those who have given it their best to save the marriage and still things are getting worse.