hie all,
my friend has a problem and she needed advise from me ,but i thought to share it with you all so that i can give her a better advise:)
her problem is that she belongs from such a family jahan you cant meet the boy before getting married,her nikkah was arranged and she didnt knew the boy.now as she is nikkahfied now so she went on a dinner with him where he told her that he likes gals who cooks well ,wakes up early in the morning.he didnt wanted his wife to do a job .he wanted her to have kids and look after his parents.Now the problem is the gal is becoming a doctor and she wanted to be an obstritian.but the boy is not keen that she should study more:eek:she tought that she will talk to him in her next meeting.
yesterday her MIL came to see her and baaton baaton mai she said ''ITANI PARHAII KA KIYA KARNA TUM AISA KAROO SILAHII (SWEING) BHI SEEKH LO O’'she ignored that comment and told the MIL that she had cooked ACHAAR GOSHT today ..uss pai she siad ‘‘loo jee uss mai kiya kamaal hai aj kal bohat shaan kai masalai miltai hain’’
these things are happening after nikkah .she asked me kai kiya woh khush rahai gi shadi kai baad???for me shadi is pure LUCK ..what can i say???secondly she is that type of a gal who can study hard and want to afford a maid instead of doing all the work herself.
so what should she do..should she continue with the nikkah yahan abhi bhi time hai ???
No no, don’t advise her to go for a divorce dear.. it’s a small problem, MILs are like this most of the times.. they usually taunt to their DILs. Its nothing out of this world happening to her. Just ask her to communicate with her husband and he’ll understand InshaAllah. and being a muslim going for divorce just for making their career is not a good idea at all - IMHO
Rest - you can see other’s advises too.. they’re also good and helpful.