Re: Cant find a desi khatoon ;-)
It is true dilemma for anyone who is not in touch with similar people around.
I am not sure yet what type of 'compatibility' is being sought here?
It needs to be defined.
Culture, religion, language, physical looks, age, education, perhaps job, mental level, general ideas of life? Even political views some think of a big issue, which is mostly a silly issue.
Not everyone gets all of these.
Even people who spend some time together before marriage may become totally incompatible AFTER marriage.
I have witnessed great successful marriages even after few conversations over phone (or none whatsoever communication) if family found otherwise 'compatible' person.
If someone asks and emphasizes too much on compatibility, either the person is just afraid or is not ready to commit and be flexible. In both situations, the person is not yet ready!