Re: cant cook ...getting married
im gttng married in september dis year..and all i can cook is some salan gravy..need some serious help..as i dnt get how to cook these triditional things....its really difficult for me... however i can cook some really nice pasta...pies..lasagne....and things like these...but since im gttng married in some really traditional family i need to learn all other things.....bahhhh aaahh life sucks..
can someone give me some serious advise or how u guys startd cooking..any life experiences...in laws experiences etc etc... some confused buddy here thanx
You know what?
When I got married, I had never lifted a finger to cook our traditional foods whilst I lived at home and whilst I lived away from home at uni.
I was petrified of what would happen when I got married as my husband is originally from India (although he's been living in the UK for a while) and he was used to being "pampered" with gorgous desi dishes!
So what did I do?
I just made stuff I was comfortable with, which meant a lot of pasta dishes, bolognese, tandoori chicken etc. Even the pasta dishes I made with indian base ingredients. Then I used to watch mum when she cooked when she came to stay. I used to envy my sister in law as she could cook for dawats as well as every day....and I used to think when will I be able to do that?
I just persevered with it, a few mistakes here there and everywhere, I didn't give up EVER.
No ma'sha allah, I can cook for hubby, family and even BIG dawats..........I have my signature dishes which everyone loves - Nihari, Yakhni etc.
Just this past weekend, my cousin and his wife came round unexpectedly and we hadn't eaten dinner yet, I had made biryani that day and so we asked them to eat with us. Now my cousin has never ever eaten anything I have cooked (not sure ho that happened!) but he tasted the biryani and was so pleased with it, he said that he never knew that I could cook traditional dishes like that. So he said "Tum EXPORT nahi ho, phir bhi apne khane mein EXPERT to zuroor hoh!"
So, anyway, the moral of the story is, take it one step at a time, don't give up, follow some good baic recipes which will inspire you to adapt to your own recipes and Insha allah you will be fine