Canadian Law?

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As for your question about ahmadi guy and none ahmadi woman, maulvi not wanting to do niqah....
In old days, when someone would become ahmadi, even own family would not know. All that oppression and judgement against ahmadis...people found their way out. My hubby would say he is muslim not Ahmadi, he told my family he doesnt believe in these firqay-baazi. Since I had full intention to become Ahmadi, this was a mutual understanding between us as couple, we would have niqah done again through Jamaat after my bait.
Now judge me all you wish, but thats the truth, im not going to sugar coat anything. As my mama says: Knowing what you did, you surely deserved it.
Dont come crying to me now. And Im not. Im facing every bit of it, ultimately I will have a closure.

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You were going to become an Ahmedi? Maybe a warning from Allah that is.

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@Pathani.....Why did you choose religion forum to start this thread?
btw you still want to become ahmadi or have you changed your mind?

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I just got the news that he has left jamaat.
You may take it as you wish.
I have gained in all other various aspects of my life.
When he is not having the right niath, then im not to blame.
A label is not that important. you have your thoughts and
I have mine.
Well why not in religion-section?
The more feed-backs, the merrier. I dont mind a thing.

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May Allah give you ease in this life and the hereafter.

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and plz sister ... do not become an ahmedi...prophet(pbuh) is the last and final prophet(pbuh) ...i know how much amedis are strong in Canada and Germany.....

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Everything happens for good.
You are saved from living a life of haram and also from becoming an Ahmedi.

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A life from haram? lol Im sorry, but you are totally off track. To you even Shia are not muslims, so plz dont comment about Ahmadis. Whatever I am or NOT, I answer only to Allahjee. Period.

I have chosen to post the last e-mail I received after a couple of calls.
If mods dont agree with this, they are free to delete whatever posted.

"1. I left Jamat long time ago much before YOU even knew it. Since you know it so know this too that I don't care for any one now. I was watching you how low will you go. So enjoy the ride you are to go on soon because this time you are in real trouble because this time you are not a Nadaan Dost but a Nadaan Enemy. you have done your maximum damage to me and you will be PUNISHED for the rest of your life.

  1. Asma was 110% right about you that you are Black Nagin who eat her own family and that if you were a family woman you would have never opened your mouth. There is no shame or Khair in you. You deserve to be treated in the same way you treat others because that's only language you UNDERSTAND better.

  2. you are not my wife in any country. So **** yourself.

  3. I have told you, I will make you PAY THROUGH YOUR NOSE. and If I don't then you come and spit on me.

I meant it.

Don't write me from now on because I will not reply after this. You have done your worst and i will see what I can DO to bring some more disorder in your brain."

This was after several threats and also calls to my family.
I can only say, I really laugh out loud.

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Take care Pathani,May Allah give you ease in life.

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posting your such private stuff gives you what ?

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Pathani: This is really sad to read all the stuff you posted but I don’t understand why you have to open your personal life book in front of everyone to read? I mean you could post few things like you asked about Canadian law and the situation you are in but posting every bit of detail does not make any sense.

Allah :swt: knows best and He may help you to over come all the troubles. Again really sad to read all this and on top of that really sad to see you posting all your private matters openly.

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Perhaps not to you, but to me it surely does. Its not like Im posting my mailing adr. and his as well.
The point is, DO NOT do AS he is doing to me, when married. An example of how things can go WRONG, brutally wrong and the consequences a woman has to pay due to the weakness of lust of hubby. And also, indirectly, women should not be so trusting as I was to begin with.

And unmarried women should think TWICE, before starting an affair with a soon to be married guy. You may not like it, perhaps you belong to same community as him, but Im not pointing fingers at Ahmadi community.

Another thing is, every fairytale story about having two wives SHOULD not be pictured as rosy as MOST men like to point it out, by namely writing:
"Islam allows a man to marry upto 4 women."
Islam is MORE than that.

There are many singles at Forum. They should also realize IF you end up getting married to your best friend, things can also end as in my real life story.

There are some women who wrote about their lives to me, after reading my post. They dare not come forward to write about it. I refuse to live a life in shame caused by the dirty mistakes to nashaad hubby. Id rather make a difference. Im a woman but no, I dont have to put up with whatever crap Im served just caz hubby remarried under such filthy circumstances.

The worst part of it is, he is from Ahmadi Sahaba bloodline. Its vital for other young Ahmadis to know, HOW their own families could end suffering due to huge mistakes....committed thinking a wife will just keep enduring.

And finally, yes, I wanted to show the arrogance of such a man. The way he has the nerves to write such things and also threatning me at max. level.

I pray my postings become food of thought for any who leads a zig zag life or thinking to remarry without having the real need of it. Second marriage doesnt always bring sheer happiness, it brings LOT of stress for a man.

I hope it will do. And with all respect, Im not going to post more about him or my situation. Its exhausting and also at times painful.....

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My last in-put:
Perhaps, the email also shows how a man is controlled by his second wife.
The power she can use in any direction, to get rid of first wife.

He was the most kind person i had ever known or trusted.
What didnt I do to have a happy marriage?

What didnt I put up with, because my fear of loosing
someone is huge to due to early death of my late father?

Be happy for its not your sister living at home, though being
married. How family acts when a woman has chosen her partner
thinking it was a mature decision. I didnt have an affair with him.
I made our families communicate and eventually get a permission
to marry, though by laws of Islam, I dont need the confirmity of
own family.

Its a huge tabu to be a divorcee. So what happens if someone as
myself end up being unlucky all over again?

The message is simple:
Dont play God with other people's lives.

And Ive decided, I will not use my ID.
If I post in future, with will be with a new ID.
Mere apne liye bhi bohot ho gaya....

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I am not sure what you believed in before you converted to Ahmedi but did you considered the taboo of converting to Ahmedi. You may say its not a taboo and don’t point fingers on other religion. Well I am not pointing fingers just presenting an opinion and majority of the people in Pakistan considers being Ahmedi a taboo (in a sense that you are committing sin since majority of the people think Ahmedi’s are not following the right path, they are going astray). So now since you are divorced why you feel the babuism? You made a big decision on your own and you even went against your family just to marry this person and now why does it hurt being divorced?

It seems to me you fell in love blindly with this guy since he seemed so nice to you and he maybe was kind to you or he acted like that just to make you propose. What ever the case it seems like a blind love affair and blind to the extent you even changed your religion and paying the consequence. :flower1:

Please do not think I am trying to degrade or curse you, its just my opinion and I apologies in advance if I’ve hurt you in any way.

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hi Pathani,
Though i am late in this forum, but i really need to talk to you so please reply. I feel so sorry for most of poeple who tried to judge and added to your frustartions in stead of being sensetive and offering some solution. Sister I have so many common things in my life and i can understand you better than all of these people. I can understand what you might have passed though when a person betray you like this. Anyway contact back and i have so much to tell you and may be some solutions too. Allahhafiz

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A friend of mine did get her stuff back from her husband. They were both legal residents of USA but when he married her he wasn't legally divorced from his first wife, just separated for many years. So the marriage to my freind didn't happen at all it the eyes of law. I think they just married at teh mosque, not sure. However, she did sue him for teh $50,000 he had absocnded with and won it back. So aks a Canadain lawyer what can be done. You may have grounds.