Boarding Schools.

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There's the rub, when average people gain opportunities otherwise closed to them because of money or connections.

I was going to make this comment before I saw the above one but I guess it fits there too.

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I don't think I'll ever send my kids to a boarding school only because I'd miss them a lot. I don't even wanna send them to a normal school before the age of 14 to be honest.

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my dad was in boarding school from grade 1 on, if i recall correctly, and he considers it the best time of his life. however, yes, i believe his connection to his family did suffer and it all culminated in certain less than ideal circumstances later. fortunately, all worked out in the end, but the road to the happy times was a long and bumpy one for him, his parents and the whole family in general. so, no. i wouldn't send my kids to boarding school. good, private schools that the kid can attend while living at home are available in our area as are excellent public schools so luckily we won't have to make that choice insha'Allah. i am set on sending him to montessori for the first few years iA and then we'll see if he continues on or goes public.

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My husband was in a boarding school for over 12 years and has the most annoying habits from eating while in bed to not feeling a need to be careful about not making the room messy,and what not,besides not considering family time any important and things like that…all by-products of living away from family unsupervised in a hostel. I hate boarding schools for this reason from the core of my heart and i already tell him mai bachoan ko dukaan khol doongi kamaanay kay liay agar studies kay liay boarding kay liay bhejna para lekin hostel KABHI nai janay doongi IA:bummer:

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^ that sounds like a terrible boarding school!
my dad learned a lot of discipline/manners from the one he attended.

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I am sure SGC.. he went to two of them in Lahore.

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I went to private school all thru my childhood but chose to go to state for A-levels as well.. My parents gave us the choice at that age of where we wanted to go and stupidly my decision was based on where my friends were going..

For me the main advantage of private school were the class sizes.. I was** never** in a class of more than 12 or 13 (some lessons there were only 8 or 9 of us) so we were always given loads of attention and it would have been hard to fall by the wayside.. When I switched to state the class sizes were double that and it was strange not having that extra time and attention.. For that reason I would tend to choose private over state (but there are always exceptions)..

I'd prefer not to have my kids boarding (even just weekly) but if I thought they would genuinely benefit and the other schools around us weren't as good then yeah, I would go for it..

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Actually I have a 17yr old son who is causing a lot of problems at home.. disciplinary problems. Me and my wife were wondering if sending him off to a boarding school would help him be more disciplined and train him to start taking responsibility?

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I can't answer your question as I have not had experience but I would be very careful about such a decision. If there are problem between yourselves and your son, sending him away may only make things worse and he may end up resenting you.

It's better that you work together to try to find a reason for his problems.

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Its not a matter of sending him away.. the only consideration is maybe a boarding school would instill some discipline in him. He's bound to take them more seriously than he takes us.. no?

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I understand what you are saying but I feel that a child (he's still a child, especially if he has these sorts of conflicts with you) will not understand that. All he will see is that his parents cannot be bothered with him any more so they are sending him away. Not to say that some children won't mature and see/accept the reasons but the opposite if it were to happen will be a much a much worse situation than now.

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As a teacher I can tell you from a lot of personal experience, a child who has no sense of right/wrong or has not been properly disciplined at home will not and cannot learn responsibility soley from an educational setting.

We teachers can't build upon something that is not already there from the onset. The foundations for behaviour boundries begin at home.

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I met someone who went to boarding school for majority of his life.

I assumed it taught a lot of discipline and such. With him though...I think he forgot what it was like to live in a family setting. I noticed that affect it had on him...he didn't think family time or ties were all that important.

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^ true. I have a live example at my place too who goes to work,comes back,has his meal,sticks to tv/laptop/newspaper/bed as if no one exists besides him in the entire place and if someone does, it’s room-mate who doesnt need to be talked to :smack: I just HATE boarding schools :frowning: aisay discipline ko kya karay koi ?

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hubby went to boarding for some part of his education. I can say for sure that discipline and structure are advantages. Professionally they pay off in the long run but comes at a cost of family.