I guess we all treat our guests fairly well…
and if they come unannounced and its dinner time or lunch time…they eat wht we r having for lunch/dinner plus the stuff mum always keeps in the freezer in case guests come unannounced…like kababs and rolls and bbq chicken etc etc
and even IF these kinda things arent availaible…u just offer them the BEST u have at tht time..and tht pleases Allah(swt)
wht more can we ask for…
agreed…
they r defenitely a blessing…
and i hv been saved from getting daant wen guests decide to ring the bell at the perfect time and mum forgets abt scolding me wen the ycome…so thts an extra blessing:hehe:
obviously hareem there are some people whose company we always welcome, and we like them to drop in anytime, but those are few and far between. it is good to inform at least when you are five mins away from the house that you are planning to drop in..surprise enough hota hay, isnce these days there might be other things keeping one busy and its tough to entertain with open arms even those whom u absolutely love all the time.
I think I'd prefer notice...I would never get upset but if I had a choice I'd want them to call.
I love entertaining so for me its a matter of perfection where I want them to have a great experience, food, atmosphere, etc. I have been caught off guard but I was always disappointed because I didnt have time to plan out a really nice visit for them and an interesting menu.
okay reha, i am showing up for some biryani one of these days.
and oh yeah since you have a business and u told me the name I can look up incorporation details and figure out your home address.
I could have been a fantastic psychotic stalker criminal genius...but had to go the yuppie lifestyle
okay reha, i am showing up for some biryani one of these days.
and oh yeah since you have a business and u told me the name I can look up incorporation details and figure out your home address.
I could have been a fantastic psychotic stalker criminal genius...but had to go the yuppie lifestyle
If guests are coming from far away, its really better that they tell you first, so you can prepare some nice food at the very least for them, and usually people coming from far away do tend to call and let my family know. Other than that, the people that call over unannounced are usually people that live nearby and we are used to them coming over, its fine, no probs. they get the fruit and bombay mix and out of town guests get the chicken lol.
People may come arranged or unarranged that is Islam, but if they come unannounced then you have the right to decline ...
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If one visits a friend, with or without an appointment and they apologise for not being able to receive you accept their apology without any ill feelings. You should understand that something may have come up for them to decline your visit. Their previous plans, or state of their house, may have made your visit inconvenient. Similarly one should cancel an appointment (in whatever capacity this may be) if one is aware of not being able to attend. This adhab is important as it removes any ill feelings that may otherwise linger due to declination. Those that do not decline, or cancel a visit may in turn end up disgracing themselves. It is hence important to fulfil promises and keep appointments and if we are declined, not to hold a grudge.
Allah (SWT) says:
"If ye find no one in the house, enter not until permission is given to you: if ye are asked to go back, go back: that makes for greater purity for yourselves: and Allah knows well all that ye do."
(Qur'an 24:28)
Many don’t know how to act in such circumstances where a guest arrives and it is not convenient for them to be received. Often people resort to lying, but not only do children learn from this behaviour, but it may lead to further problems. Lying promotes enmity and hatred and displays the signs of the munafiq. Don’t clearly and blatently lie about your presence. Declination of a visit does not require explanation, as not everybody is able to express such reasons. There is hence great importance on not holding a grudge but reflecting on the above ayat from the Qur'an. Too much time is spent and wasted today in persuit of minor issues and disputes.
The one visiting should seek permission by saying; “You’re not busy are you” or “Perhaps you’re busy and can’t receive us” to make the hosts feel at ease. One should always remember even in telephone calls to seek permission to take that persons time, removing any ill feelings if declined. It is important adhab not to make it difficult for someone to decline, as that in turn may cause some harm to them or their situation.
psyah, this art of declining only works if the people who are arriving are fully aware of what you shared and follow it.
It is more likely that you decline someone and they get totally ticked off and then start badmouthing you as badtameez etc.
It depends on the person who visits. With some people I don't mind if they just drop by, but certain other people do annoy me if they do that, because I want to be prepared before they arrive, sometimes there isn't enough food at home to entertain guests and then you get all these negatives stories about you from those people. If someone is nice and understanding, then it's fine. I tell people like that they can always drop by whenever they want to.
I don't think I'm too bothered if guests come uninvited...only close by friends do that anyways.Family can come whenever...usually ammi or mami bring some yummy food with them..:D
People living a ways always ring...maybe to check we are home,or just to let us know so we can sort out some decent food for them.
Living in a close knit community,we always have someone or another dropping by...esp in summer..
Do you prefer your guests to inform you about their arrival or you don't mind?
My husband thinks it's okay for people to just drop by without informing beforehand or giving a call Islamically, but I think in this day&age when we have cellphones etc people shouldn't just show up on your door and should always inform you beforehand.
What do you think?
I don't really mind if friends/family show up without prior notice. I'll do it myself with people I'm close enough to.
Friends and family shouldn't be a problem. A friend or family member is always dropping by to pick something up or drop something. I don't mind guests either, it's not like I have to deal with them.
Friends and family shouldn't be a problem. A friend or family member is always dropping by to pick something up or drop something. I don't mind guests either, it's not like I have to deal with them.
Important point to note. It's not generally men who are disturbed much by unexpected guests. It's the women of the house who have to run around do the chai shai and have their schedules distrupted. Family and close friends is no big deal plus they aren't generally inconsiderate enough to pop by on a week night if the people they are visiting work, or if the kids bed time is going to be disturbed etc. It's the people who don't seem to care.
and mum forgets abt scolding me wen the ycome…so thts an extra blessing:hehe: