I guess we all treat our guests fairly well…
and if they come unannounced and its dinner time or lunch time…they eat wht we r having for lunch/dinner plus the stuff mum always keeps in the freezer in case guests come unannounced…like kababs and rolls and bbq chicken etc etc
and even IF these kinda things arent availaible…u just offer them the BEST u have at tht time..and tht pleases Allah(swt)
wht more can we ask for…
agreed…
they r defenitely a blessing…
and i hv been saved from getting daant wen guests decide to ring the bell at the perfect time and mum forgets abt scolding me wen the ycome…so thts an extra blessing:hehe:
obviously hareem there are some people whose company we always welcome, and we like them to drop in anytime, but those are few and far between. it is good to inform at least when you are five mins away from the house that you are planning to drop in..surprise enough hota hay, isnce these days there might be other things keeping one busy and its tough to entertain with open arms even those whom u absolutely love all the time.
I think I’d prefer notice…I would never get upset but if I had a choice I’d want them to call.
I love entertaining so for me its a matter of perfection where I want them to have a great experience, food, atmosphere, etc. I have been caught off guard but I was always disappointed because I didnt have time to plan out a really nice visit for them and an interesting menu.
okay reha, i am showing up for some biryani one of these days.
and oh yeah since you have a business and u told me the name I can look up incorporation details and figure out your home address.
I could have been a fantastic psychotic stalker criminal genius…but had to go the yuppie lifestyle
If guests are coming from far away, its really better that they tell you first, so you can prepare some nice food at the very least for them, and usually people coming from far away do tend to call and let my family know. Other than that, the people that call over unannounced are usually people that live nearby and we are used to them coming over, its fine, no probs. they get the fruit and bombay mix and out of town guests get the chicken lol.
psyah, this art of declining only works if the people who are arriving are fully aware of what you shared and follow it.
It is more likely that you decline someone and they get totally ticked off and then start badmouthing you as badtameez etc.
It depends on the person who visits. With some people I don’t mind if they just drop by, but certain other people do annoy me if they do that, because I want to be prepared before they arrive, sometimes there isn’t enough food at home to entertain guests and then you get all these negatives stories about you from those people. If someone is nice and understanding, then it’s fine. I tell people like that they can always drop by whenever they want to.
I don’t think I’m too bothered if guests come uninvited…only close by friends do that anyways.Family can come whenever…usually ammi or mami bring some yummy food with them..
People living a ways always ring…maybe to check we are home,or just to let us know so we can sort out some decent food for them.
Living in a close knit community,we always have someone or another dropping by…esp in summer..
Friends and family shouldn’t be a problem. A friend or family member is always dropping by to pick something up or drop something. I don’t mind guests either, it’s not like I have to deal with them.
Important point to note. It’s not generally men who are disturbed much by unexpected guests. It’s the women of the house who have to run around do the chai shai and have their schedules distrupted. Family and close friends is no big deal plus they aren’t generally inconsiderate enough to pop by on a week night if the people they are visiting work, or if the kids bed time is going to be disturbed etc. It’s the people who don’t seem to care.
and mum forgets abt scolding me wen the ycome…so thts an extra blessing:hehe:
