i think it varies from every couple and the situtation in which they were married........i've been engaged for about 2 yrs now and inshallah getting married in a week n a half but it was hard for the first yr for us to talk about something like that but now that we've gotten to know each other better it's easier for us to talk about basically everything and i guess it helps that we knew each other before the engagement.........everything gets easier with time the important thing is to be honest w/ ur partner and if you really don't feel comfortable talking about these things just have to ease into it and not put to much pressure on it.......i never thought as myself as being the type that would be able to talk about things like this w/ anyone but i guess there comes a time in every relationship when things just fall into place and everything gets easier and comfortable to talk about