because a lot of girls define love as they see it in Bollywood movies and they put up with men who might compliment them or say lovey dovey things, but whose actions don’t match up with their words…i.e. marry a guy who says “i’d die for you, you’re the most beautiful girl in the world” but calls you 24/7 and controls where you go and who you meet with because “I love you and want to protect you.”