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must..keep..naughty..thoughts..at…bay
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the girls loved the penis model, c’mon…it was a recipe for disaster 
i do wonder what the boys’ lessons were like..
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is it allowed to eat a banana that wore a condom briefly? or would that count as inappropriate behavior?
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i do wonder what the boys' lessons were like..
I can only imagine how horrified they must have been at having to handle a fake penis.
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Yeah but some of you are saying you had no idea but learned yourselves.
Isnt that a recipe for disaster? How early is too early?
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This is a bit embarresing, but i actually fainted at my first class on menstruation (I was 11), maybe it got too gorey and the diagrams made me squimish, my mum never told me about this before, the whole bleeding part. I do remember when i was 11 (before the class) I started to get hairy armpits lol, and i thought i was just strange and i ran into the living room with my dad there and said ahhhhhh i have hairy armpits and my mum pushed to the side and i think she tried to explain something about boobs, (in mirpuri), well i generally speak english better than mirpuri so there is a communication issue but she stopped and got embarrassed, she didnt go onto the bleeding part.
So it was all quite a shock when i did have to learn about it, well i didnt learn about it fully, once the diagram of the female pelvis and the nurse started going on how we bleed i passed out and missed the rest of the class. Then I passed out again in secondary school, when they showed this diagram except it was an animation of it. It was an all girls class, but obivously the news broke out and lots of people were gossiping about mem including the boys.
It got alot better after i actually had my period then i didnt have any fear of it. I think my fainting was a result of fear. But I kind of wished my mother told me about it in a nice way so i didnt have to find out like that in front of all those people in that sterile room. My oldest daughter is 10, and i already started going over this stuff with her slowly slowly, so it doesnt all come as a shock to her.
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Much to my parents displeasure I read alot of magazines. Seventeen/Teen magazines when I was in middle school, Cosmo/glamour when I got to HS.
Today, I feel I'm too young to ever know the stuff thats featured in Cosmo. :(
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Regarding those who said that it's not that necessary in a conservative environment, from my own experience I would disagree. I can't talk for the Middle East but when I was younger I went back to Pak when I was 9, 14 and 16 and EVERY single time there was some sort of pervy event.
I had a guy in lahore grope at my backside (still makes me shudder), guys leaving me their mobile numbers with money (like wth?!) guys try to record me on their videophone, hands touching my body whilst in a busy crowd etc etc
The most ironic thing is in that every one of these situations I had family members with me incl. my parents who had NO idea what was going on and I was absolutely terrified and humiliated to say anything to them.
In contrast, growing up in the UK I've had no such event that I can remember. At all.
In our sixth grade we had sex ed which was the girls and boys separated to watch a grainy old video describing the changes in puberty followed by a giggle filled q and a session with a female teacher. We very briefly learnt the bio aspect of it in high school which was more the adaptations of a sperm cell. Oh and we had a lady from the Always menstrual pad company come and talk to us about periods. That was probably the most helpful. Other than that everything we know is from magazines, websites and gossip.
I definitely think sex ed should be better and more sensitively taught. Apart from the whole periods talk with my mum I got no info whatsoever from my parents. It was just a complete taboo topic.
Relating from my own experiences in Pak, I do not understand why every time people come over to the UK from Pak they are so indignant and disgusted by the fact that sex ed is taught here! At least it's being acknowledged that this is a topic that awes hormonal teenagers, which is true wherever you are in the world.
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Regarding those who said that it's not that necessary in a conservative environment, from my own experience I would disagree.
I don't think anyone said its unnecessary. I think everyone agrees about parents teaching their kids what appropriate and inappropriate contact is.
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Regarding those who said that it's not that necessary in a conservative environment, from my own experience I would disagree. I can't talk for the Middle East but when I was younger I went back to Pak when I was 9, 14 and 16 and EVERY single time there was some sort of pervy event.
I had a guy in lahore grope at my backside (still makes me shudder), guys leaving me their mobile numbers with money (like wth?!) guys try to record me on their videophone, hands touching my body whilst in a busy crowd etc etc
The most ironic thing is in that every one of these situations I had family members with me incl. my parents who had NO idea what was going on and I was absolutely terrified and humiliated to say anything to them.
I repeat what GDISA said, we never said its unnecessary, just that despite not having gotten any sex ed we turned out fine. And while the incidents you describe do happen here, I have to question what sex ed would have done to prevent that sort of pervy behvaiour?
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i think in uk parents do it at the age of 13/14...some studies are going on that sex ed should be given at an early age. in pak i dont think parents tell you. well mine never did...idhar udhar ke halaat dekh ker hi sab khud ba khud samajh main agaya.
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At what point do parents talk about sex with their children? I'll be honest, mine never did.
Some time ago, when we were kids, our father sat us down quietly, me and my brothers snuggled together. Overly worried and twitching nervously he said he wanted to tell us something. Fathers hands became clammy and his mouth dried up. We all looked up, wondering what on earth was about to happen. He finally mopped up his thoughts and proudly spluttered.
"Father > Putturs, I think its time we had a talk about sex".
"Me breathing a sigh of relief thinking what all the fuss was about replied with wisdom "Yeah, Abu Jee what would you like to know".
"Father > Tum to bohaat batmeez nikalayaa, Smack".
That's all I can remember.
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^ LOL.
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Did anyone here from a single-sex school in the UK ever do that banana condom stuff?? I didn't.. My sex ed was nowhere near as 'hands on' as that.. We just got a video and a normal-ish talk..
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^Yup, seriously. There are boroughs where the teenage pregnancy rate is pretty high, so they take the view that if kids are going to do it regardless, then they should have an understanding of protection. For us it was almost pointless, because it was Tower Hamlets* - in that entire school I was the sole Pakistani, there was one gora, and the rest were all Bengalis. The only protection we needed to know about was the rolling pin and the beating it would dish out if we ever touched/or was touched by anyone.
*Borough in London, home to mostly Bengali immigrants and Brick Lane.
My SIL went to school in Tower Hamlets and her mum is a health visitor to those Bengali majority schools.. She said the rates of teenage sex there are really high and she was often dealing with young Bengali girls wanting abortions..