Arranged Marriages vs. Dating

[Deeba1234]

Re: Arranged Marriages vs. Dating

@strawberryshortcake

What do you think are some pros and cons for each? From what I know Muslims are generally not allowed to date, its haram. Thats why many have their rishta. I think that if in my culture we did that it would be pretty cool. I wouldn’t have wasted so much time and energy in relationships that ultimately failed. I could’ve just focused on becoming more successful But at the same time, you learn so much from your mistakes and even those failed relationship teach you valuable lessons.

There’s another way.. it doesn’t just have to be either dating (in the western sense) or parents finding someone for you.. In some Muslim cultures it’s considered totally normal for a guy who’s seen a girl he likes to approach her father himself.. Obviously a lot of dads in our culture would find this insulting and start to question their own daughters’ morals if this happened though (“what has she been upto that some guy wants to marry her?” ’

As to whether arranged is better than not arranged that depends on the individual person and their situation imo