All Things Adoption

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Re: All Things Adoption

@Peony

I don’t mean any disrespect by sharing my view point.

Honestly, some of the rulings and rules that people pull out as Islamic are no longer valid because the world has changed so radically since that ruling or taken out of context. I think people should try to get to the meaning behind the ruling or a fatwa. Back in the day when you lived in a itty bitty tribe, it was important to keep the adopted child’s name the same as before to prevent incest.

Now when you don’t know who the father of the child is it’s kinda hard to keep his/her last nameand if the child is being adopted from overseas are they seriously going to get in touch with their biological siblings and fall in love and end up in marriage?

Just because times change rulings don’t change with time, people’s acceptability of these rulings change. The wisdom behind naming a child after their biological father doesn’t have to do with them falling in love with their biological siblings (though a possibility).

What best source do we have besides the word of Allah :

Call them by [the names of] their fathers; it is more just in the sight of Allah . But if you do not know their fathers - then they are [still] your brothers in religion and those entrusted to you. And there is no blame upon you for that in which you have erred but [only for] what your hearts intended. And ever is Allah Forgiving and Merciful. (33:5)

After this ayah was revealed Zaid (R.A.) wasn’t known as Zaid bin Muhammad anymore, he was affiliated with his own father .

Most people, when they find out they are adopted, have to go through a tough time. A child who has been adopted from abroad will eventually put two and two together and realize that he or she is adopted. The next thing that happens are the questions : Who are my real parents, why did they leave me, do I have any siblings etc. etc. Some people do actually meet up with their biological parents.
So the ruling about adoption is not outdated and applies to our time as well.
Also through feeding an adopted child can also be made a mahram which is something you can not find in any other religion. It’s only through the knowledge of hadith that we find this out.
In the end, Allah knows Best.