They are the most friendliest creatures on the planet, once they know you don't look down upon them. I loved being around them. the are caring and funny.
:-) GO PM!
He's got the right idea, treat them with respect and they will return it in two-fold!
Re: African American ladies...why so sad?
A Black co-worker of mine told me just the same thing, she said, "We only hate those who hate us" or something like that.
Worst feeling is when someone makes you feel that they look down on you or don't see you as their equal...
Never said it was dead..please don't pick on small points. In general black ladies are violent, LOUD, full of anger and that hasn't changed. You came up with the reason of "NEGLECTION" which is a lame excuse.
You know, coca cola, I think its because of people like you, why others like to stereotype Muslims and Pakistanis as intolerant and small minded individuals. Please stop embarrassing us.
This always strikes me as funny. We as Pakistanis, as Muslims have spent most of this decade overcoming stereotypes and correcting misaligned accusations. Remember all that terrorist stuff? Four wives? Disrespect and disregard for women? Ignorance? Hate our brothers? And what about being Pakistani? Don't we all smell bad? Talk in strong accents? Participate in corruption? Encourage violence? Civil discord?
These are all generalities based on a perception of a race/ethnicity. All those things I've mentioned above are often associated with our culture and faith. Does it accurately describe us? No! We aren't terrorists, we don't smell bad, we're well educated, hate corruption and love our brother Muslims. And yet, we are still inaccurately stereotyped everyday.
Knowing this, how can you be so ignorant as to take a group of individuals, a minority much like ourselves, and PIGEONHOLE them? To say that black women have attitudes and always have a chip on their shoulder is narrow minded. I know many black women, most do not act like this at all. On the other hand, I do know tons of people who have horrible attitudes, and not all of them are black nor are they women.
Don't take offense to this but, maybe the problem is with YOU! Maybe you don't know how to approach people, or how to be empathetic. What line of work are you in? You seem to have got your mind made up that all black women act this way. So if you're going to treat them that way, then surely they will react to you accordingly.
If you work in an inner city, chances are that you are dealing with African Americans since they are a very marginalized community. You have no idea what anyone's life is like, and what circumstances lead to their behavior. And if you do not treat them with respect, you are guaranteed to get disrespect in response. I mean, hey, take the slums of Pakistan. Go shopping in one of their bazaars, she how brash the aunties are in dealing with the store owners. They yell and scream and have major attitudes.
There is a lot of good in a lot of people. I guarantee you that if you treat people with respect, worth, value and kindness you will receive that in response.
By the way, your response to Pakifairy was very little minded. You called her a fairy-tale princess and asked her to grow up. In my opinion, it is you that needs to grow up and learn to be mature. You need to learn about tolerance, empathy and compassion. Right now you sound arrogant, ignorant and narrow minded. In which case, I hope those ladies give you what you deserve.
This is such a good post! I read it three times! Good job, Somehowcollide!
Re: African American ladies...why so sad?
i agree with SHC!
African Americans are nice people they look rude because its their way of talking but in real life they are nice people.
Re: African American ladies…why so sad?
Like someone said earlier, it has to do with one’s environment and the hardships they face. There was a study done in 2003 which found High rate of depression in African American women. The excerpts are below:
But it is not enough to paint them all with the same brush. I know plenty of African American folks, both females and males, young and old, and they’re all very nice. Always humble and seem quite happy to say the least. So let us not stereotype.
We may need to dig a bit into history to see the hardships their ancestors had to face, and sacrificed so much for this nation, and they often feel they are dealt with unfairly despite all that, just as some of us sometimes feel like we’re wrongly accused or stereotyped. This is not a utopian society, and there are flaws but there’s much for African Americans to be proud of.
Re: African American ladies…why so sad?
When I was in the working world, I met many African American women who were assets to the company. Hardowking, professional etc etc. But there were not many.
But out in the suburbs of new york, the very vast majority of these women have huge attitude problems. Go to a store like Home Depot and approach one to ask a question…they turn and walk away like they have something better to do. (Unless you’re of color). Go to a fast food restaurant and watch them serve one of color - they respond quickly and accurately. But for whites, they go slowly and tend to make “mistakes” in your order. If you politely lodge a complaint, you get a severe tongue lashing from them. I cannot begin to tell you how many negative experiences I’ve had with women of color…and I am in no way rude or condescending - to anyone.
When you deal with so-called white-collar African American women, your experience will be far different than if you deal with the “blue collar” population.
This is my own personal experience. Perceptions are usually based on experience yeah? And these perceptions are certainly shared. If you read about Atty Gen Holden’s recent remarks he wants to face this issue head-on and change the whole head-in-the-sand approach thats been typical in the past…
Holder ‘nation of cowards’ remarks blasted, praised - CNN.com
Re: African American ladies…why so sad?
this may be a bit off-topic but I think it all relates to what you’re saying.
Okay don’t quote me on this but I THINK it was Ken Pryce who said something about the experience of slavery for black people was culturally devastating for them. them being transported and sold into slavery meant they lost hteir language religion and their family system. this contributed ot the fact that they became less resistant to racism.
i think it’s just to do with the way they speak, and majority may come off aggressive because they feel bigger and in control.
now i’m not making sense at all 
leave me be 
like even when i’m with my black friends they seem really loud and sound quite harsh…but you just gotta know how to roll with them…unowahmsayn 
and no, i’m not saying ALL black people are like that before someone jumps on me :halo: