I do not like to waste time and find quotations from Quran; as it is difficult for me. But I know ,I have read in Quran that if some one wants to marry some one. Both are allowed to know each other well before they marry. Now the question is how can they know each other?
There is only one way to meet.
How can they meet?
This is in question?
Now:
To understand some one you can meet a few or many days, you can talk. Buit kindly do not touch each other it is not allowed in Islam to touch a namahram.
Some parents let the boy and girl meet in their presence, as you know, proper educated muslims know about it. That these children have to pass whole lives. They know the NEYAT of meeting the two. So as every thing is based on Neyat. Meeting not for peeping in the eyes of each other is allowed.
As peeping in the eyes is also equal to as if some one did ----- and ofcourse neyat is to be tested by God. Both girl and boy should be in Parda that is:
Wearing full dress, and also parda of eyes is required. People think cover all the body leave eyes open is parda .I do not think as parda includes parda of eyes. Haya of eyes of both girl and boy.
Once you understand each other . And parents are alive you can approve or disapprove each other, and inform them.
If you are alone and no one is over there to attend your marrage then you can read your Nikka Khudba yourself. Again Neyat is every thing niot DEKHAWA.
Easy way to select the proper person. Then leave the rest to God. And stay RAZI BA RAZA E KHUDA if later there is misunderstanding between you two. Try to solve with discussion sessions after sessions God help those who help thwemselves
God is just. He has bestowed on you intelligence use it to have better life.
To understand some one you can meet a few or many days, you can talk. Buit kindly donot touch each other it is not allowed in Islam to touch a namahram.
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*Originally posted by sokoon: *
If you are alone and no one is over there to attend your marrage then you can read your Nikka Khudba yourself. Again Neyat is every thing niot DEKHAWA.
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plz correct me if i'm wrong but rnt the qazi and witnesses required at the nikah?
I have given the example of worst possible situation.Where you do not have nobody. Ofcourse one should arrange some people as witness, and if possible NIEKA KHUAN, as we are social animals and we have to face our social environment too. But it is acceptable without any above arrangement in case one can not do; reason best known to those people. It is better to live with reading khudba themselves instead of staying together without khudba.And participating in bringing illegitimate children in the world. This is what I think, since the main aim of geathering ,shahids etc etc is to legitimize the marriage in order to not have haram kids.Regards sokoon
Re: According to islam, what is the proper way to find a spouse
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*Originally posted by Pristine: *
According to my knowledge of islamic teachings, na-mehram men and women are discouraged from unnecessary interaction (talking, seeing each other, courtship, dating etc) with each other.
I also remember that a man and a woman are allowed to talk to each other (in the presence of a chaperone) if both of them intend to marry.
So, what is the proper way for them to find a spouse and get married. How would a man, find the right girl for him if he is not even looking at girls?
Is the only way to find a spouse is through elders in the family (I don't think so)?
What are the rules of engagement?
On what topics can a man and woman talk with each other before they get married?
Thanks in advance for your responses.
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Ain't you suppoesed to leave it to your parents.....