Absent Parents

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Re: Absent Parents

@candy_apple

My situation is not exactly as you describe, but my husband works very late hours (or he just stays behind at work because he wants to let traffic die down) so he pretty much doesn’t get home most days until after 9 pm. I can already see the effect it has on my daughter. She may be initially excited to see him when he get home, but she does not go to him easily and often cries when she is with him because she wants to go to me or her grandma. He is not concerned at all. He says, she will love him when she gets a bit older.

That is so sad candy apple. Perhaps he is right. Yes kids don’t remember childhood much and perhaps certain things do not matter when we think about them later (ie she will love him later) BUT if our kids get hurt today, eg bump a head, get a scrape, their pain is real, whether or not they forget it, and we moms witness it and are pained too!!

@Afia

We moved to Pakistan some five years ago. But my husband couldn’t so he is still in EU.
It was too hard in the beginning, but is getting better alhamdulillah especially because he flies to us quite often like 3-4 times an year, sometimes more. But even when he is not with us he is always in contact through phone/skype/ viber etc. My kids always seek his permission for going somewhere and share whatever they want to, with him. He always shows much interest so the kids have learned to cope.
You should come n see how he is welcomed each time he comes My daughters even put mehndi on their hands and feet as if it was eid.
Just don’t ask about the time we see him off. I pack his suitcase usually after kids have gone to bed. it’s tough!

How old are your kids? Much be so tough. It isn’t normal!

@mirage

Because its the both of parents who bring a baby into this world, there is no reason one of them be absent from their life. The worst a parent can do to their baby! And this is only violating the law of nature which requires both the parents combined to rear their child. What affect it has on a child, not having one of the parents around, I guess is best imaginable by the child themselves only.

The things a person does for money…