a question to married people

[sarab]

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Sounds a bit strange to me, how could anyone be intimate with someone they are really angry with. Either they were not that angry with them in the first place or suffering from some kind of bi-polar disorder. If you’ve had a fight but then discuss it and make peace then thats just ‘make up’ sex but to still be bitter and angry about the fight and have sex is just plain weird to me.

[hareem01]

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@sarab

Sounds a bit strange to me, how could anyone be intimate with someone they are really angry with. Either they were not that angry with them in the first place or suffering from some kind of bi-polar disorder. If you’ve had a fight but then discuss it and make peace then thats just ‘make up’ sex but to still be bitter and angry about the fight and have sex is just plain weird to me.

uh no…no… the intimation part comes after the peacemaking but the peacemaking part doesn’t last for too long so it’s just an ongoing circle. Btw, this is not about myself:@: , it’s just a random question, I was wondering if it’s normal to have that sort of behavior between spouses.

[sarab]

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A ‘random’ question with such strict parameters, I second CEO1 post, really what is the point of this thread?

[Gaia]

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It depends on the reasons for the fights. But the way I look at it, if you are able to come to peace (even for a little while), than the issues can be worked out by opening up more communication and one person giving in more than the other. The issue just needs that little “extra” understanding from the partner who starts the fights.

If the problem is unsolvable, than no conversation would end in peace.

[hareem01]

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@sarab

A ‘random’ question with such strict parameters, I second CEO1 post, really what is the point of this thread?

i don’t know…okay it was about my friend.

[hareem01]

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@Gaia

It depends on the reasons for the fights. But the way I look at it, if you are able to come to peace (even for a little while), than the issues can be worked out by opening up more communication and one person giving in more than the other. The issue just needs that little “extra” understanding from the partner who starts the fights.

If the problem is unsolvable, than no conversation would end in peace.

it’s usually little little things like blaming each other for every little thing that goes wrong. for example, the wife took 5 minutes longer than the usual in putting on make up and because of that they got late for the dentist and dentist wouldn’t see them coz they were 5 minutes late etc.

[sarab]

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@hareem01

it’s usually little little things like blaming each other for every little thing that goes wrong. for example, the wife took 5 minutes longer than the usual in putting on make up and because of that they got late for the dentist and dentist wouldn’t see them coz they were 5 minutes late etc.

Ok but been late 1 time would not cause a big fight, she must have a habbit of taking to long to get ready and the husband is annoyed by this. Every couple fights, but I don’t know one couple that fights about a new thing every day. Most of their fights are long running issues that have never been truly resolved. It’s like a craked wall, if you don’t take the time to fill in those cracks and just keep papering over them the cracks will always reappear.

[Gaia]

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@hareem01

it’s usually little little things like blaming each other for every little thing that goes wrong. for example, the wife took 5 minutes longer than the usual in putting on make up and because of that they got late for the dentist and dentist wouldn’t see them coz they were 5 minutes late etc.

Applying this to your original post, you’re not going to get along with your spouse perfectly. And EVERY couple has arguments over little things (wife put too much salt in food, husband forgot anniversary, etc.) , but not every couple is able to come to peace and meet in the bedroom.

[Sara516]

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@hareem01

I don’t think I described the situation fully…sometimes you’re angry with your spouse and you decide okay this is it I’m not even going to talk to him again or I’m not even going to look at him or sleep with him etc…but you can’t stick to your plan and just give in within 24 hours.

Lol I think that’s normal…in any situation really, not just sex/mariage.

[Decent_6Chora]

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@hareem01

What if you don’t really go along well with your spouse(lots of arguments on little things etc) but you have a perfect bedroom life, can you just spend your whole life like that?

You spend most likely 6-8 hours in bedroom out of 24 hours. Math is easy.

[zaiena]

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well i hv seen such couple who hv 3 children abut after that there ni love or anything like that. they just pass the life. strange.

[mirage]

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@hareem01

What if you don’t really go along well with your spouse(lots of arguments on little things etc) but you have a perfect bedroom life, can you just spend your whole life like that?

I cant really figure it out. How can two people be excellent in bed and worst otherwise. I believe your sexual relation very much depends on how you feel for each other. Im not counting one night stands kind of things here ofcourse.