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Fourth Date with Mr. NYC

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I had just gotten home from an hours drive and it was late at night. Within two minutes of getting into bed I get a text from Mr. NYC asking "Wyd" or for those that dont know text slang, "What are you doing?" I did not read the text as my phone has been acting up recently with its ringer. About a minute or two later I get a phone call. It was Mr. NYC telling me that he had just gotten off work after working 17 hours. Gahhhh. I sympathised with him and asked him what he is doing. I then ask if he wants to meet up, he said no no you go to bed because you just got in bed and I dont want you coming to see me when you need to sleep. So sweet, but I knew that Sunday morning I may have to go to take care of other things and will likely not be able to meet him so I insisted that I am wide awake and can drive to see him.

On my way back home before Mr. NYC had called me, I was going over in my head what happened with my ex-business partner. I was feeling sad and upset infact. The thoughts were consuming me on my drive back home and it wasnt healthy for me. My mood was off. I was not at all expecting to hear from Mr. NYC because I hardly heard from him at all during the week until the end of the week. It was a nice surprise. We met up and he asked me what I want to do. I said it doesnt matter so I drove around a little then parked my car in a shopping centers parking lot and we talked.

We discussed many things and I told him about the situation with my former business partner. He had some things to say but basically he told me that I shouldnt trust people as easily as I do. He said I am a good girl but that I need to make better decisions about people. How is the question? I suppose I saw signs and I ignored them, maybe I need to stop ignoring things and make a more assertive stance on what I want or need done.

We got into the topic of his past and things that happened and the topic of cheating and how forgiving one can be towards something like that. I told him flat out that I personally cannot handle someone cheating on me. I am far too emotional and perhaps even immature to deal with something like that. I told him I'd leave that person. He took a different stance. He said he can forgive the first time as people can make mistakes but then he'd be very watchful basically from then-on. I told him listen, if someone desires to cheat, why not just tell the person they are no longer interested in them and leave before anything takes place? He understood my viewpoint. Then we were discussing my concerns again about him possibly leaving. He told me that he is not planning to leave me and why are we even having that discussion. I told him that last week he didnt call me at all and that he hardly replied to my texts. I told him that I have been doing the chasing recently. He had a sheepish grin on his face. Grrrr. Then he's like listen, sometimes I get into my zone and I want to be alone and I dont talk to anyone around me. Especially around the holidays. He said it doesnt mean he wants to leave me or stop talking to me. He said he loves me, wants to be with me and is not planning to leave me. Awww. *blush*

We discussed some interviews he had and I insisted he send me pictures he showed me of him in different suits he recently bought. He looked so clean-cut it was amazing! Like I was looking at a completely different person. *smack* Okay, not completely but you get the idea. Usually he's dressed totally down. He shaved the sides of his head, I dont know why but I really like that look or the shaved head look.

I told him he needs to workout a bit. He said he has gained some weight and tapped his belly. I told him to hit the gym because I plan to as well soon. InshaAllah. He is skinny! He is 6 feet 2 in. tall MashAllah and says he is a certain weight but to me he looks atleast 30 lbs. lighter than he says he is. Need to have him stand on a scale while I am watching. *grin*

I was just melting looking into his eyes while talking to him in the car. I smiled a few times and I am sure he had no idea why I smiled. *giggle*

He was telling me how his adoptive parents used to dress him like the kid in "Problem Child" movie and how he used to get made fun of in elementary school because of it. He started working doing peoples lawns and stuff and made money so he could buy his own clothes. He is very into street and other fashion so I can totally see a little version of himself doing something like that.

This conversation was devoid of any political talk. It was nice for a change. We joked around and then he was serious when he said that there is a time for everything and we cant rush things and that he is working on some things. I told him I had a dream where he built us a house and the house looked kind of small but it had elements added to it that made it unique. He then says, :"Munni, I dont do small so I dont know who built that house in your dream." *giggle smack* Told him it was him. Grrrrr.

I drove around to different restaurants to see which ones were open as he said he was hungry but none were so I drove about 20 minutes to the one I knew will be open. I saw he was getting sleepy. Drove back to where I had picked him up and he ate, we talked a little more then I told him he should get going cause I know he was really tired and sleepy. He gave me a hug and walked off.

When I got home he had sent me the photos of him in a suit. I had a nice time with him and I was smiling when I got home. I felt that he was less serious or nervous or reserved this time. We were more playful and joked around more than usual. It was so nice. I really needed that and the meeting completely changed my mood by the time I got home and the next morning. I woke up and was smiling about the night before and about how I actually felt like I had fun that night. We may have only been sitting in a car and talking and joking but it was a wonderful time. I'm really liking our simple dates. It forces direct communication and less concern about how much is being spent, crowds around us, the venue, etc. It allows for a greater concentration on important questions to ask and a real getting to know the other person opporunity. I felt different than I had on our previous date. I felt that I really had a nice and fun time and that I adore this guy that I am getting to kow, Mr. NYC. *blush*
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  1. LP's Avatar
    I'm glad to hear you had a good time
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  2. aqua70's Avatar
    That actually sounds really nice, just sitting in a car and chatting. Glad you had a good time.
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  3. FreshBakedPi's Avatar
    This is a good development! I like that he listens to you and offers you advice. He seems really kind! And it seems like he's letting his guard down... that's a good sign!
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  4. NavAhmed's Avatar
    Good signs. We will miss you Munni
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  5. Munni's Avatar
    Thanks all! Yes I felt he was more comfortable this time which was nice. He is considerate (most of the time lol).

    Why miss me? Where am I going lol? I dont plan on disappearing due to a relationship. *smile*
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  6. FreshBakedPi's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Munni

    Why miss me? Where am I going lol? I dont plan on disappearing due to a relationship. *smile*
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  7. Munni's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by FreshBakedPi
    lol, you are adorable!
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  8. NavAhmed's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Munni
    Thanks all! Yes I felt he was more comfortable this time which was nice. He is considerate (most of the time lol).

    Why miss me? Where am I going lol? I dont plan on disappearing due to a relationship. *smile*
    We will miss you in our Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club band....
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  9. FreshBakedPi's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by NavAhmed
    We will miss you in our Sgt. Pepper's Lonely Hearts Club band....
    Pfffttt don't believe a word he says @Munni ... look at his latest post! Lonely indeed!
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  10. SID_NY's Avatar
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  11. Munni's Avatar
    lol SID, hilarious!

    Nav, maybe my leaving may encourage others to venture out of the club as well. *grin* It's still too early to tell if I will be leaving anytime soon. Gahhh.

    FBP, I know right! Pffft!
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  12. cat-woman's Avatar
    So much talk and no making out. The guy must be so frustrated! Lol
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  13. Holy Lota's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by cat-woman
    So much talk and no making out. The guy must be so frustrated! Lol

    Yup Yup for sure that guy could be seen in grocery store buying some extra "soap"
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  14. Munni's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by cat-woman
    So much talk and no making out. The guy must be so frustrated! Lol

    looooool, no comment!
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