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Second Date with Mr. NYC

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It's absolutely silly that I am writing this entry after the previous one I just wrote. Sometimes I feel that he doesnt take serious action unless I make an ultimatum of sorts. I dont like doing that but honestly it's just me reaching a point where I feel things arent going right. I dont want to waste anymore time on things so I say it like it is without any expectations of what the response will be. I waited almost 3 weeks to meet him a second time and I was simply losing my patience cause just about everyone around me was like, Munni something is wrong that a guy doesnt want to meet you even after two weeks at the beginning. Maybe he is married, maybe he isnt that into you, blah blah. It was freaking me out. I do lack patience when it comes to communicating with guys or meeting up with them. I need to seriously work on that.

He hadnt contacted me really since I had told him about the incident with my boss and that upset me. It was an important issue to me and I wondered why he seemingly brushed it off. Then last night he said maybe he can meet me after work but after work I did not hear from him. I did not make any ultimatums but I did tell him that it was very important for me to meet him this weekend. I called and left him a message about it and I sent him several texts about it. He finally replied to me and asked why I am acting like I have something life altering to discuss with him. I told him that it isnt life altering but its important that I meet him. He agreed to meet and we met up at Panera bread.

There was an incident with the cashier making a mistake on the change she owed him and lets just say that he is exactly like what I said he is, he does not care who is around to say what he wants to say and how he wants to say it. I told him later that he could have been a little more subtle about it.

We sat down and discussed different things. I asked him to sit next to me instead of infront of me because I feel that is less intimate and more formal. That turned out not to be a good idea beause I wanted to hold his hand but of course I did not say or try anything. *smack*

He went on with some of his stories, the ones I choose not to believe whenever he tells me something similar and he told me about how he is. Here's what I gained from that conversation. He is anti-social. He said it himself. I totally get that vibe from him and I think thats what he meant when he said people feel intimidated by him. He sounds aggressive, he watches people and he doesnt say much unless spoken to. Alhough he is like that with others, he is not like that with me. I wanted to spend more time talking to him but after about a little over an hour he said he had to leave. It was important for me to have that meeting with him. I wanted to assess how I'd feel. Because of the whole anti-social discussion I did not feel the way I did after the first meeting.

He did do certain things I really liked. I was going to pay for my food since I was the only one eating but he said he's got it. He then asked me if I wanted water as the person forgot to give me a water cup so he went up and got me some. Then he held the door open for me and other guests walkint out and when I walked him to his car, he told me to walk back to my car and he will wait and watch till I get there. Aww. I really liked that.

He did tell me that he didnt know what to tell me about the boss incident because he had already told me what I should do about other incidents I spoke to him about my work/boss.

Afterwards I called my mom and told her the things we discussed. She asked me if I want a guy who talks to everyone and is friendly with everyone and is in-turn often out with his friends a lot and what not or if I preferred someone who keeps more to himself and therefore spends more time with his family for example as opposed to others or everyone else. She did have a point there I have to admit. She then reminded me that nobody is perfect and if he likes to tell stories then that is what he likes to do, it doesnt affect how he treats me. I told her my concern is that if he likes telling stories what if he tells me a story that isnt true, then what. She said you can never know when someone is telling you the truth and that any guy can lie to me and it will be difficul to know unless I spent a lot of time with them and got to know them well.

I had told him that if he feels annoyed by all my texts and doesnt want me to do that then to let me know. He said I can text him as much as I want but that he wont always reply right away. I told him its fine that he doesnt reply right away but that there needs to be an increase in the level of current communication. He seemed to understand. I then told him that I cant handle only one meeting every three weeks either. He flat out asked me what my needs are and I said atleast once a week. He said done. I thought I will get an argument from him but I did not, so that was a nice surprise.

He did mention how he doesnt like to be clingy and doesnt want a girl who is clingy either. He said he needs some space. He said most girls dont want a guy who is all over them either. I know I dont. It's true I get turned off by that but then I dont like feeling ignored either.

He texted me afterwards and asked if I got home safe. We texted some more and he told me he badly wanted to kiss me. *giggle smack* I changed the subject. *blush*

Till next time...
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  1. NavAhmed's Avatar
    so you have moved to the next stage, we call it sexting! lol just kidding....
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  2. Munni's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by NavAhmed
    so you have moved to the next stage, we call it sexting! lol just kidding....

    Noooo, thats all he said about it. I changed the topic. *snooty*
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  3. NavAhmed's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Munni
    Noooo, thats all he said about it. I changed the topic. *snooty*
    expect more to come!
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  4. Munni's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by NavAhmed
    expect more to come!
    Nah, he told me he doesnt want to say certain things to me as he doesnt want me to run away. Sweet of him. I think that statement is the furthest he will go.
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  5. aqua70's Avatar
    It's ok, blogs are for writing down your thoughts. I like how it shows your whirlwind of emotion, very real to be honest. Good luck.
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  6. NavAhmed's Avatar
    tbh there is nothing wrong with sexting :shrug

    (provided its welcome)
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  7. FreshBakedPi's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by NavAhmed
    expect more to come!
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  8. third string's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by NavAhmed
    expect more to come!
    Dude is that a pun lmao
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  9. Munni's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by NavAhmed
    tbh there is nothing wrong with sexting :shrug

    (provided its welcome)
    I realize some people do that but I dont know what the norms are in society regarding this. I tend to be more on the conservative side and I wonder sometimes what guys think about that.

    Thanks aqua, I try to keep it real even if it doesnt make me look that good by doing so. I blog about life as it happens. *smile*
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  10. NavAhmed's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Munni
    I realize some people do that but I dont know what the norms are in society regarding this. I tend to be more on the conservative side and I wonder sometimes what guys think about that.

    Thanks aqua, I try to keep it real even if it doesnt make me look that good by doing so. I blog about life as it happens. *smile*
    each to his own! I'd sext if the girl was up to it, if not, then the usual romantic stuff.

    off course I may be a bad guy and there may be 'good guys' out there, but I wouldn't judge a girl who was into it, neither would it be a deal breaker for me. i don't subscribe to the usual codes of morality and self-righteousness.



    I agree that to each his own. Everyones different in their expectations and desires. I feel that some guys interpret my conservativeness as having no desire, which is not at all the case.
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  11. Munni's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by NavAhmed
    each to his own! I'd sext if the girl was up to it, if not, then the usual romantic stuff.

    off course I may be a bad guy and there may be 'good guys' out there, but I wouldn't judge a girl who was into it, neither would it be a deal breaker for me. i don't subscribe to the usual codes of morality and self-righteousness.



    I agree that to each his own. Everyones different in their expectations and desires. I feel that some guys interpret my conservativeness as having no desire, which is not at all the case.
    Everyone is different indeed. I feel that some guys interpret me being more on the conservative side as me having no desires. I have been questioned about this by some guys before and I wonder why they feel that way because its simply a case of me wanting to wait, not a case of having no feelings or desires at all.
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  13. HamzaKhan's Avatar
    The incident with the cashier, if it is a nod in the direction of disrespect, it may be an indicator of how he treats people in general. Try to watch how he relates to people in your vicinity.

    Then again, relationships are difficult to navigate.
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  14. Melodrama's Avatar
    maybe he prepared you for the kiss on your third date *jokes*
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  15. pktun's Avatar
    Mr. NYC se ye puch lo pehle k wo bhi GS pe tou nae hai kaheen?
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  16. Munni's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by HamzaKhan
    The incident with the cashier, if it is a nod in the direction of disrespect, it may be an indicator of how he treats people in general. Try to watch how he relates to people in your vicinity.

    Then again, relationships are difficult to navigate.
    He did not disrespect her. He was impatient with her. He firmly stated that she owed him a certain amount of change. When she said she will get her manager he said to keep the change. Had he said it in a lower voice I think I wouldnt have said anything to him but he is on the louder side.

    Aside from that, yes I will watch any interaction with others when I am around him. I just realized that he was quite friendly with others, asking strangers how they were doing and stuff, if they were near him or passing him for example. Even I do not do that in public. I usually only speak when spoken to.
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  17. Munni's Avatar
    Melodrama, hawww. lol. He better not! *giggle*

    pktun, he is not on GS. He doesnt have the time or the inclination thankfully!
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  18. Sajalina's Avatar
    What nationality is he (I am curious, only if you want to share)?
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  19. Munni's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Sajalina
    What nationality is he (I am curious, only if you want to share)?
    I mentioned it earlier in a previous blog post so I dont mind sharing it.

    His dad was Italian and his mom was a mix of things including Puerto RIcan and Italian I believe.
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