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I dont know what to think about this anymore. Yesterday I had simply had it. As I mentioned before, he has been going to friends invites for much of the time I have known him (I have known him a week). I dont know what got into me but yesterday he first told me that he had the evening free and will call me and then later he said he got an invite for dinner so he was heading there. I got upset and simply mentioned how he basically only has time for me when he is driving home from work. We then argued because the following day he was going to his friends house for another invite after work. He then said on his own that he wont go there and will instead speak to me the following day, which is today.

Then we got into another argument about the whole waiting to get married thing. He said he wants to get married in a little over two years from now. I told him listen, tell me right now if that is what you are sure you want to do because I will not wait two years to get married. I told him clearly that this is going no further if thats the case. Then he said then what about one year. I didnt really know what to say at that point because I dont know if he simply said that to stop me from ending all talks or ifhe meant it. He then said lets not discuss that until after we meet so I complied but I wasnt too happy after that discussion.

Today he messages me that the hotel is pricey and what is he supposed to do everytimie he visits, get a hotel everytime? I simply replied that he can drive back the same day. I am pretty sure he didnt like that because I have not heard from him since. I dont know what else I was supposed to say. Let's meet half way? He wants it so that he drives one weekend and I drive the next time we want to meet. Hotels are cheaper where he is but its still costly for someone like me. Now I am wondering if he went to the invite he said he wasnt going to go to. He hasnt messaged me at all and I am not going to message him right now.

Maybe he thinks this isnt going to work. I dont know. I dont know what to think about all this anymore. I dont even know if he will come anymore.

C'est la vie.
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  1. third string's Avatar
    Maybe he wants to crash at your place lol
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  2. FreshBakedPi's Avatar
    How far away is he from you again?
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  3. Munni's Avatar
    A little over 3 hours.
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  4. Bobby1's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by third string
    Maybe he wants to crash at your place lol
    Some girls are too innocent to figure out the games boys play..
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  5. FreshBakedPi's Avatar
    That's a bit of a hike... but you did suggest meeting halfway in the future so I'm not sure why he wouldn't take you up on that. Grumbling this early on about the cost of a hotel when you haven't even met yet is in very poor taste. Hopefully he was just having a bad week and will clarify.
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  6. Bobby1's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by FreshBakedPi
    That's a bit of a hike... but you did suggest meeting halfway in the future so I'm not sure why he wouldn't take you up on that. Grumbling this early on about the cost of a hotel when you haven't even met yet is in very poor taste. Hopefully he was just having a bad week and will clarify.
    I dont usually agree with the string guy but he maybe right, the guy is making his move, he wants to sleep at her place. He wants to get the milk without having to buy the cow...men sometimes are not nice people.
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  7. LP's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Bobby1
    men sometimes are not nice people.
    Sometimes!!
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  8. Sajalina's Avatar
    Yeah agree with the above comments, he wants to stay at your place.
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  9. FreshBakedPi's Avatar
    What impertinence!

    @Munni
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  10. NaanGuard's Avatar
    This is already too much drama for me...if it was me 'as a girl' I would be done with this crap already.

    First of all...if you haven't even met once yet, whats wrong with getting a hotel. The point of all of this is just to meet. Why is he thinking in to the future about visiting every week. News flash, you don't have to visit every week. Make it a month. Even if it is too expensive...than don't visit at all and skype/webcam. The whole point in visiting is too see each other and see a person in "real life" to decide about marriage. Although Mind you, if he is too poor to afford a hotel for one weekend. You probably shouldn't marry the guy.

    Second point about waiting 1-2 years..it doesn't even take that long. WTF you think is going to happen in 1-2 years, the longer you wait, the higher chance that zina is going to happen. I don't know how religious you are, but just stating that fact. Islamically speaking, it doesn't take 1-2 years to know someone. 3 months is all you need. If you don't like/not like the guy by then break it off and on to the next one.
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  11. Munni's Avatar
    I feel it was too early to be thinking about hotel issues. He cannot stay at my place, that is for sure. I definately dont want to wait 2 years. He cancelled on this weekend due to being on-call at work. I have decided to continue talking to others because I dont think this is going to workout due to his timing demands and other things he mentioned. Will I still meet him? Maybe, to see if anything changes. Not sure yet.
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