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I seem to be encountering them a lot lately.

Pet Peeves List:

1)- When people don't keep their word. The worst part is when they don't keep their word and they don't even acknowledge it.

Example: Person: "Hey I will call you tomorrow in the afternoon."
Me: "ok, cool."
I usually don't have my phone with me at all times so I make sure to take it with me where ever I go so I don't miss their call. Afternoon comes and goes, nothing, nada. Not even a message to say, "sorry I can't call" beforehand or even AFTER, "sorry I couldn't call." Nope, not a peep out of them. Who taught you such manners!!

2)-Liars. This is pretty self-explanatory, just can't stand them.

3)-Mind games/Fakes. This whole concept of she texted me, I am going to wait a couple of hrs to text back because don't wana seem desperate. Ugh just be gone. I usually just walk away from them, such a time waste. Note, I am not talking about people who are super busy, that is understandable but one can gauge the intentions pretty easily. Also, Pretending they don't remember certain things even if it happened a few days ago, omg this just drives me crazy. You are NOT cool by pretending to be forgetful, ugh ffs just be real. I walk away from such people too. Needless to say, I don't talk to many people any more.

Sometimes I feel like a gran surrounded by children who consider it normal to do all the above and I just can not comprehend. Idk if it has to do with being introverted and paying close attention to everyone and everything while everyone else doesn't. Either that or there is no shortage of fakes/liars.
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  1. Bobby1's Avatar
    It is always our expectations that make us feel bad, you might have to lower your expectations a lot. I am working at a new site for the first time, this location is very dense in ethnic clientele and stuff like not keeping the words, not showing for appointments, lying, cheating manipulation etc used to bother me a lot but now I just expect it so I can take it a lot better.
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  2. Mystique's Avatar
    Oh my list is quite long. Be back to answer shortly
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  3. aqua70's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Bobby1
    It is always our expectations that make us feel bad, you might have to lower your expectations a lot. I am working at a new site for the first time, this location is very dense in ethnic clientele and stuff like not keeping the words, not showing for appointments, lying, cheating manipulation etc used to bother me a lot but now I just expect it so I can take it a lot better.
    Yea. My expectations are pretty low at this point but I think it's better to not have any. lol
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  4. aqua70's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Mystique
    Oh my list is quite long. Be back to answer shortly
    There are more things on my list also but the ones mentioned take the cake with their annoyance.
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  5. Mystique's Avatar
    I wanted to come back with a complete list but all I could think of yesterday was BO. Thats how bad the impact was. But then I fell asleep.

    Today, all I can think of is uncleanliness. Cant stand it.

    Will keep on adding one or a few every now and then in no particular order.
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  6. Bobby1's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Mystique
    I wanted to come back with a complete list but all I could think of yesterday was BO. Thats how bad the impact was. But then I fell asleep.

    Today, all I can think of is uncleanliness. Cant stand it.

    Will keep on adding one or a few every now and then in no particular order.
    Amen!!! for bringing that up, yesterday I was dealing with a very arrogant and rude person who was so full of himself yet he smelled horrid from both ends and I am thinking how delusional can a person get.
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  7. third string's Avatar
    I'm guilty of #1 looool.

    I hate #2 and #3 however I think what's considered a lie is subjective, like there are a white lies or lies that you say to keep the peace or maybe you lie cause you don't want discuss something or it's just too personal, I don't hold those kinda lies against people.
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  8. third string's Avatar
    My biggest pet peeve is when some chicks leave me on 'seen' lol
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  9. aqua70's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by third string
    My biggest pet peeve is when some chicks leave me on 'seen' lol
    Well third string, jaisa karo gai waise bharo gai. You don't keep your word, they keep you waiting. win/win
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  10. Mystique's Avatar
    Started writing my reply yesterday but was out and had to rush. When I got home, my half written reply was gone.

    Yes, that is my top of the list pet peeve. Another one is when people spray on tons of perfumes like literally empty bottle of body sprays when what they really need is just a shower. That is how that guy stank yesterday. He was oozing an unbearable odor which was mixed with alot of body sprays and perfumes. Can you imagine something like that? My nostrils started hurting too. I felt sick and my brain hurt. The guy was offering help when I did not need any. It was only after he turned around that I thought of telling him that he stank so bad and he must take shower before going to work if that is what his job was but he had already taken a few step walking back to his place and I could surely not be bothered to follow that BO just to tell him to keep clean. Even visualizing that day's incident is giving me headache.



    Quote Originally Posted by Bobby1
    Amen!!! for bringing that up, yesterday I was dealing with a very arrogant and rude person who was so full of himself yet he smelled horrid from both ends and I am thinking how delusional can a person get.
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    Updated Aug 10th, 2017 at 01:23 AM by Mystique
  11. Mystique's Avatar
    Aqua, I also hate 2nd and 3rd. That is why I stay away from relationships. Guys here are bigger dramakings than females. They clearly surpass any dramaqueens in the world.
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  12. Mystique's Avatar
    My 2nd pet peeve:


    People who lie and then lie more to justify the older lies instead of admitting that they lied and apologizing for older lies.
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  13. aqua70's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Mystique
    Started writing my reply yesterday but was out and had to rush. When I got home, my half written reply was gone.

    Yes, that is my top of the list pet peeve. Another one is when people spray on tons of perfumes like literally empty bottle of body sprays when they really need is just a shower. That is how that guy stank yesterday. He was oozing an unbearable odor which was mixed with alot of body sprays and perfumes. Can you imagine how something like that would smell? My nostrils started aching too. I felt sick and my brain hurt. The guy was offering help when I did not need any. It was only after he turned around that I thought of telling him that he stank so bad and he must take shower before going to work if that is what his job was but he had already taken a few step walking back to his place and I could surely not be bothered to follow that BO just to tell him to keep clean. Even visualizing that day's incident is giving me headache.
    THIS. Omg can you imagine living with a person like that? In university, my roommate had an early morning class so when she got ready she just sprayed the heck out of the perfume, the smell would coat the room so thick, it was suffocating and there would be no escaping even if I buried myself underneath the covers like a worm. I would have to wake up groggily and air out the whole room for at least half an hr with a fan. And no amount of politely asking her to please spray it outside or in the bathroom worked.
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  14. Mystique's Avatar
    OMG! Please accept my sincere sympathies for going through such a tortuous phase during student life with so much patience

    I could not have been able to keep my patience with a roommate like that. You are a legend



    Quote Originally Posted by aqua70
    THIS. Omg can you imagine living with a person like that? In university, my roommate had an early morning class so when she got ready she just sprayed the heck out of the perfume, the smell would coat the room so thick, it was suffocating and there would be no escaping even if I buried myself underneath the covers like a worm. I would have to wake up groggily and air out the whole room for at least half an hr with a fan. And no amount of politely asking her to please spray it outside or in the bathroom worked.
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  15. aqua70's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Mystique
    OMG! Please accept my sincere sympathies for going through such a tortuous phase during student life with so much patience

    I could not have been able to keep my patience with a roommate like that. You are a legend

    Hahaha thank you, it was a difficult year but I made it. alhumdulillah
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  16. Mystique's Avatar
    Alhamdo lillah

    Quote Originally Posted by aqua70
    Hahaha thank you, it was a difficult year but I made it. alhumdulillah
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  17. NaanGuard's Avatar
    "There is always one central question to be asked: where did I tie my horse? Where did I place all my hopes and expectations that ended up unfulfilled?" this made me think...

    I've realized that I've always placed to much hope in unrequited love and expecting the same from people the kind of respect I give to them. The Golden rule...which every religion teaches.. This however, never comes to fruition. You'll have liars, broken promises, under delivered goals, etc.

    I think its important to understand that you should live your life to the best of your ability, but always keeping your expectations low until you find some one who is like you, and that you can trust.


    Not doing so.. will lead to disappointment, from disappointment to anger and sadness..from sadness to depression.
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  18. aqua70's Avatar
    Dang @NaanGuard thank you, that is good advice.
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  19. LP's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by NaanGuard
    "There is always one central question to be asked: where did I tie my horse? Where did I place all my hopes and expectations that ended up unfulfilled?" this made me think...

    I've realized that I've always placed to much hope in unrequited love and expecting the same from people the kind of respect I give to them. The Golden rule...which every religion teaches.. This however, never comes to fruition. You'll have liars, broken promises, under delivered goals, etc.

    I think its important to understand that you should live your life to the best of your ability, but always keeping your expectations low until you find some one who is like you, and that you can trust.


    Not doing so.. will lead to disappointment, from disappointment to anger and sadness..from sadness to depression.
    True
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  20. SaeedinPakistan's Avatar
    On number 3. Women do tend to think less of you, thinking you're "farigh", if you reply too eagerly. I've learned that it's better to wait a while before replying. Of course, it also depends on how fast she replies, and what kinda rapport we already have.
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  21. aqua70's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by SaeedinPakistan
    On number 3. Women do tend to think less of you, thinking you're "farigh", if you reply too eagerly. I've learned that it's better to wait a while before replying. Of course, it also depends on how fast she replies, and what kinda rapport we already have.
    Hmmm did a guy give you that advice? I don't know about others, I was speaking for myself. It is a big turn off for me.
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  22. Bobby1's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by aqua70
    Hmmm did a guy give you that advice? I don't know about others, I was speaking for myself. It is a big turn off for me.
    There might be some truth to what he says, Safy says when he didnt show interest in Clara, she was begging for his attention and when he started being super nice to her on my advice, she lost interest in him. He wont take my advice anymore.
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  23. aqua70's Avatar
    ^Like I said I was speaking for myself. I am sure there are girls and guys like that out there and they can play mind games with each other all day, every day for years lol. That is not my concern.
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  24. NaanGuard's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by SaeedinPakistan
    On number 3. Women do tend to think less of you, thinking you're "farigh", if you reply too eagerly. I've learned that it's better to wait a while before replying. Of course, it also depends on how fast she replies, and what kinda rapport we already have.
    hmmm....you know what, its because of that type of mentality and thinking which make both women and men fed up in this process. Leaving guys/girls on read.. or not responding right away. Which goes to show texting is the worst form of communication in getting to know a potential spouse. Best thing to do is not text your potential SO at all. Set a date and time to talk on the phone only.
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  25. SaeedinPakistan's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by NaanGuard
    hmmm....you know what, its because of that type of mentality and thinking which make both women and men fed up in this process. Leaving guys/girls on read.. or not responding right away. Which goes to show texting is the worst form of communication in getting to know a potential spouse. Best thing to do is not text your potential SO at all. Set a date and time to talk on the phone only.
    Texting is kinda ****.
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  26. SaeedinPakistan's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by aqua70
    Hmmm did a guy give you that advice? I don't know about others, I was speaking for myself. It is a big turn off for me.
    Like I said, it also depends on how fast the other person replies. I'm gonna reply normally if the other person replies normally. I delay texts if I feel texts are being delayed from the other end. Also, like Naan said texting isn't that great. Not a big fan of talking on the phone much either, unless we're gonna be meeting any time soon. It's easy to run out of things to talk about. In person meetings are a lot easier, don't have to worry about awkward silences, can talk talk about the surroundings and stuff, and it's easy to pick on body language.
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  27. Mystique's Avatar
    Remember reading anywhere the Islamic teaching the importance of adopting 'moderation' in all the aspects of our lives? I often used to ponder about this subject. Although, by nature I was a 'go getter' who would utilize all the energy and resources on one single goal and forget about everything else until the goal achieved. My mom also always used to discourage that attitude & always advised me to stay in balance, adopt moderation. After some life experience, now I understand so well the wisdom behind that 'moderation in everything' teaching of Islam. People with a balanced attitude in life are wise and mentally abd emotionally strong and stable. They lead successful lives because they know how to keep a balanced approach in everything whether it be work, relationships. It saves them alot of undesirable situations & most of all, they get to retain the energy to manage other matters in their lives.

    People with extreme approach especially tiwards a particular goal no doubt achieve what they dream of in most cases. But then most probably not be so good at understanding and managing other things in life. Or view everything else with the same lens and have the same outlook about every other matter in their lives which they formed wrt their single or most important goal(s).



    Quote Originally Posted by Bobby1
    There might be some truth to what he says, Safy says when he didnt show interest in Clara, she was begging for his attention and when he started being super nice to her on my advice, she lost interest in him. He wont take my advice anymore.
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  28. Mystique's Avatar
    Aqua

    Dont be so skeptical about people not responding too fast. We live in a very distracting world. People tend to lose interest too quickly especially in matters involving phones/texts/electronics. They may have something better to work on or give time to physically with them. Not all may be able to build a bond through texts or phone or internet to a friend which is strong enough to make them ignore what is physically (mind you it could be a movie they are watching or a song they prefer listening or just a view outside their window they prefer staring or simple a favourite game they are playing) with them and give priority to someone who is absent. The reason being, some people tend to feel more connected with what is with them physically or what they are connected with more like their hobbies or usual passtimes.

    Hope all that makes sense
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  29. Bobby1's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Mystique
    Remember reading anywhere the Islamic teaching the importance of adopting 'moderation' in all the aspects of our lives? I often used to ponder about this subject. Although, by nature I was a 'go getter' who would utilize all the energy and resources on one single goal and forget about everything else until the goal achieved. My mom also always used to discourage that attitude & always advised me to stay in balance, adopt moderation. After some life experience, now I understand so well the wisdom behind that 'moderation in everything' teaching of Islam. People with a balanced attitude in life are wise and mentally abd emotionally strong and stable. They lead successful lives because they know how to keep a balanced approach in everything whether it be work, relationships. It saves them alot of undesirable situations & most of all, they get to retain the energy to manage other matters in their lives.

    People with extreme approach especially tiwards a particular goal no doubt achieve what they dream of in most cases. But then most probably not be so good at understanding and managing other things in life. Or view everything else with the same lens and have the same outlook about every other matter in their lives which they formed wrt their single or most important goal(s).
    Many great things can be said about moderation but then it can lead to mediocrity, I happen to have the privilege of being very close to some gold medalist athletes and you cant really get there with moderation, sports becomes your life and your religion,your friend and your lover for you to get a gold medal
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  30. Mystique's Avatar
    Sorry what can lead to mediocrity? Did not get that one.

    About the gold medalist athelets, some of them are gifted. Same goes for anyone with any other exceptional talent which is in them. It is because they were blessed with it.

    Then there are those who are bestowed with exceptional energy to not only be able to focus on one single goal but also have energy to successfully manage other areas of life. Those almre also some exceptionally talented and blessed people.

    BTW, I was not thinking of sportsmen or gold medalists when I wrote that post



    Quote Originally Posted by Bobby1
    Many great things can be said about moderation but then it can lead to mediocrity, I happen to have the privilege of being very close to some gold medalist athletes and you cant really get there with moderation, sports becomes your life and your religion,your friend and your lover for you to get a gold medal
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